Dimensions of Wellness. Family Support | Montana's Peer Network https://mtpeernetwork.org Thu, 26 Jun 2025 18:38:21 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.2 https://i0.wp.com/mtpeernetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/cropped-512-round-logo.jpg?fit=32%2C32&ssl=1 Dimensions of Wellness. Family Support | Montana's Peer Network https://mtpeernetwork.org 32 32 152317302 Raising Boys, Growing Men: A Mom’s Reflection on Mental Health https://mtpeernetwork.org/062425_km/ https://mtpeernetwork.org/062425_km/#respond Tue, 24 Jun 2025 18:59:53 +0000 https://mtpeernetwork.org/?p=16783

by Kayla Myers, Peer Support coordinator

June 24, 2025

I’m a mom of boys, loud, messy, hilarious, curious, deep-feeling boys.

And if I’m honest, one of my greatest hopes, besides them eventually learning to do their laundry and clean up after themselves, is that they grow into men who feel safe being whole. Not just strong or stoic or successful. But soft when they need to be. Honest. Vulnerable. Supported.

Because here’s the truth, one I’ve heard from every mom of boys and quietly carried myself: the world still struggles to let our sons be fully human.

We tell our kids, “It’s okay to cry,” but somewhere between kindergarten and manhood, that message gets lost. Replaced by phrases like “man up,” “don’t be soft,” and “real men don’t talk about their feelings.” And those words don’t just bounce off; they sink in. They settle deep.

As moms, we see their hearts before the world tells them to hide them. We see the quiet anxiety before the tough-guy mask forms. We know the pressure they carry in silence, the self-doubt buried behind humor, the frustration when they don’t have the words to explain what’s going on inside.

June is Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month. And if it reminds me of anything, it’s this:

We don’t just need to raise good men.
We need to raise whole men.

Men who know it's okay to ask for help.
Men who’ve had practice expressing what they feel.
Men who’ve seen someone care about what’s happening beneath the surface.

Here’s what I’m doing, or I should say, what I’m trying, daily:

  • I ask them how they’re feeling, and I try not to rush past the silence.
  • I talk about therapy like it’s normal, because it is.
  • I praise emotional honesty just as much as achievements.
  • I work on asking for help myself, because they’re always watching.

In my eyes, no boy should grow up believing his feelings make him weak.

So, whether you're a parent, an aunt, a coach, a teacher, or a friend, be part of the voice that says:

You don’t have to pretend you're okay when you’re not.
You’re not less of a man for needing support.
You’re more of one for knowing when to reach out.

To my sons, and all the boys growing into men:
Your mind matters.
Your emotions matter.
You matter.

Let’s raise them to believe it.

 

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My Personal Hero, My Son https://mtpeernetwork.org/042225_km/ https://mtpeernetwork.org/042225_km/#respond Tue, 22 Apr 2025 15:31:03 +0000 https://mtpeernetwork.org/?p=16715

by Kayla Myers, Peer Support Coordinator

January 28, 2025

April is Autism Awareness Month, a time that holds deep meaning for my family and countless others around the world. My son is almost 9 years old, and he is non-speaking. While he may not use words in the way most people do, he communicates in a hundred other beautiful, meaningful ways. I am always seeking the words for my personal hero, my son.

When I first heard the words “your child is on the autism spectrum,” I felt everything at once: fear, love, confusion, and an overwhelming desire to understand what the future might hold. I imagined the challenges he might face, the misunderstandings, the uphill battles. But what I couldn’t yet see was how much he would teach me. He has taught me valuable lessons about patience, resilience, perspective, and the power of connection that doesn’t require words.

Our days are filled with routines and rhythms that make sense to him. He used to spend hours lining up his toys in a way only he could understand, watching water swirling endlessly down the drain, and listening to the same song over and over again. These are just the things that bring him comfort and joy. They are just a few examples of how he experiences the world. And when I slow down and truly see things through his eyes, I realize how much intention, beauty, and clarity live in the moments that I used to overlook.

He may be non-speaking, but he is never silent. His laughter lights up the room when something speaks his language. His eyes sparkle when he wants to share a moment with me. His hands flap joyfully when he’s proud of himself or when he is excited. And when he’s overwhelmed, I feel his pain in my bones. Even when he doesn’t say, “Mom, I need help,” I know. And I respond with everything I have.

One of the greatest lessons I’ve learned as a mother is this: communication is so much more than words. It’s gestures, eye contact, presence, energy, and love. In our home, we celebrate every form of expression. Whether it’s pointing, using a communication device, pulling me toward what he needs, or simply placing his hand in mine when he’s seeking comfort. These are his words. And they are valid. They are powerful. And this is when I feel so connected to the idea of connection.

I’ve always been a people person. I may not excel at the things most people do, but I get people. I easily read between the lines, I am very aware of the subtle shifts in body language, the emotion behind a glance, the weight carried in a quiet moment. I’ve come to understand that everyone has a story, and that what we see on the surface is just one layer of many. I know that life can be painful. And I find grace in my ability to hold space for others, not to fix or solve, but simply to sit with them in their pain, to truly see them, and to understand even just a fragment of what they’re carrying.

But it’s my son, my beautiful, non-speaking son — who has helped me take that ability to a deeper level. He has taught me how to truly listen without words, how to tune in to the language of presence, energy, and emotion. In walking alongside him, I’ve learned to support what’s unspoken with more compassion and clarity than I ever thought possible.

Autism Awareness Month is about more than awareness, it’s about acceptance, understanding, and celebration. It’s about recognizing that autistic individuals, whether they speak or not, bring extraordinary strengths, perspectives, and beauty into this world. My son has shown me that every child deserves to be seen, heard, and honored exactly as they are.

So if you’re reading this, I invite you to lean in. Listen. Learn. Unlearn. Listen to parents like me, yes — but more importantly, listen to autistic individuals themselves. Their voices matter most. They are the true experts on their own experience. And often, the very people the world tries to speak for.

Let’s build a world where all kinds of communication are valued, where neurodiversity is not just accepted but embraced, and where being non-speaking never means being unheard.

To my beautiful boy: you are brave, man, you are brave. You are brilliant and I know more brilliant than I could even understand. And you are deeply loved, exactly as you are. I will always be your voice until the world learns how to truly listen. 

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Wellness Starts at Home https://mtpeernetwork.org/060424_km/ https://mtpeernetwork.org/060424_km/#respond Tue, 04 Jun 2024 17:04:52 +0000 https://mtpeernetwork.org/?p=15381

By Kayla Myers, Family Peer Supporter

June 4, 2024

Healthy relationships play a crucial role in family wellness by fostering a positive environment that supports the well-being of all family members. Mutual respect forms the foundation of healthy relationships within a family, as it cultivates a sense of equality and acceptance among family members. When family members respect each other's boundaries, opinions, and individuality, it creates a harmonious atmosphere that promotes emotional well-being. Understanding is another key component of healthy relationships in families. When family members make an effort to empathize and communicate effectively, it strengthens their bond and promotes emotional connection. By understanding each other's perspectives and experiences, family members can navigate challenges and conflicts more effectively, leading to improved overall wellness.

Support is essential in maintaining family wellness, as it creates a sense of security and belonging among family members. Providing emotional, mental, and physical support to one another during difficult times fosters resilience and strengthens family relationships. Feeling supported by family members can reduce stress, anxiety, and feelings of isolation, contributing to improved mental health and overall well-being.

Love is perhaps the most powerful factor in fostering healthy relationships within a family. Expressing love and affection towards one another creates a nurturing and caring environment that promotes emotional bonding and happiness. Love strengthens family connections, builds trust, and enhances communication, all of which are essential for maintaining family wellness. Positive relationships among family members foster a sense of belonging, support, and love, which are essential for emotional well-being. These relationships create a strong foundation for individuals to feel secure, valued, and understood within the family dynamic. Open communication within the family is another key component that contributes to emotional health. When family members feel comfortable expressing their thoughts, feelings, and concerns openly, it promotes understanding, empathy, and trust within the family. Effective communication helps address conflicts, resolve misunderstandings, and strengthen emotional connections among family members.

When mutual respect, understanding, support, and love are integral components of healthy relationships that contribute to family wellness. By cultivating these qualities within the family unit, individuals can experience greater emotional well-being, improved mental health, and enhanced overall wellness. Mental health awareness is crucial for promoting emotional well-being in families. By raising awareness about mental health issues, family members can better understand and support each other's emotional needs. Recognizing the signs of mental health challenges, seeking professional help when needed, and fostering a supportive environment for emotional well-being is essential for maintaining a healthy family dynamic.

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