by Kayla Myers, Peer Support Coordinator

January 28, 2025 

As a peer supporter, I’ve seen how empowering it can be when someone takes control of their own story and their own journey toward healing. The national “I Am in Control Day” is a reminder for all of us. Whether we are supporting others or working on our own personal growth, we have the ability to take charge of our lives, make choices, and advocate for what we need. It’s a day to celebrate our strength and remind ourselves that, no matter the circumstances, we have the power to harness and create positive change.

“I Am in Control Day” is an annual observance dedicated to raising awareness about the importance of self-empowerment, self-advocacy, and the ability to take control of our mental, physical, and emotional well-being. It’s a day to reflect on the power of choice and the freedom we have to take charge of our lives, no matter where we are in our journey.

For those of us in the peer support community, this day holds special significance. It’s a reminder that the work we do is not just about providing assistance or guidance. It’s about helping people recognize and harness their own strength. We’re not here to “fix” others, but to walk alongside them as they find the courage to make their own decisions and take control of their healing process.

One of the most powerful aspects of being a peer supporter is that we get to witness people making choices that directly impact their well-being. Whether it’s seeking therapy, starting a new hobby, setting healthy boundaries, or simply reaching out for support. These choices are significant steps toward reclaiming control. It’s important to acknowledge that taking control doesn’t mean everything will go perfectly or that we’ll have all the answers. Control isn’t about perfection. It’s about having a network, feeling like we have a say in what happens to us, and recognizing that even small steps forward are powerful.

As a family peer supporter, I make it a point to empower those I work with to see the value in their decisions, no matter how small they may seem. I help them understand that they’re the ones in the driver’s seat. And, more importantly, that it’s okay to ask for help and that reaching out is a form of strength, not weakness.

One of the key aspects of “I Am in Control Day” is remembering that we control our own narratives. In many areas of life, society can try to define us based on our circumstances, struggles, or setbacks. But we don’t have to accept those labels or limitations. We are not our struggles. We are not defined by our past. We are who we choose to be in this moment, and we have the power to shape our future. In peer support, I encourage others to reflect on how they view themselves. I ask them to consider what they want their narrative to be, rather than what others may have told them it should be. This doesn’t mean erasing the challenges we’ve faced but rather reframing them. When recognizing it this way, the way we respond to adversity is what truly defines us.

Self-advocacy is another key element of “ I Am in Control Day”. Being able to speak up for our needs, set boundaries, and assert ourselves is an essential part of taking control. For many people, this is a difficult skill to develop, especially when they’ve been told their needs don’t matter or they’ve been conditioned to put others first. As a peer supporter, one of my most important roles is to help people build self-advocacy skills. I work with them on how to communicate their needs clearly and confidently, and how to advocate for the support, resources, and care they deserve. This could be as simple as asking for time off when they’re overwhelmed or seeking professional help when they need it. Self-advocacy is about recognizing your worth and standing up for yourself when it’s time to do so.

“I Am in Control Day” is more than just a day for awareness; it’s a call to action. It’s an opportunity to reflect on how we can take control of our lives and inspire others to do the same. It reminds us that our power is within us, and we have the ability to make choices that lead to healing, growth, and well-being. As a peer supporter, I’ve seen how transformative it can be when someone realizes they have the power to control their story. I’ve seen people take their first steps toward recovery, speak up for the help they need, and, most importantly, believe in themselves. On “ I Am in Control Day”, I encourage everyone to take a moment to reflect on their own journey, acknowledge their strength, and celebrate the choices that have empowered them.

So, whether you’re someone receiving support or someone offering it, take this day as a reminder that you are in control. You have the power to take charge of your well-being, shape your own narrative, and advocate for yourself. And as a peer supporter, I’ll continue to walk alongside you, cheering you on every step of the way.

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By Kayla Myers, Family Peer Supporter

September 24, 2024

“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through the experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition ignited, and success achieved.” — Helen Keller

Today, I invite you to join me on a journey. The map I was given at birth was filled with detours, unexpected stops, fast-paced highways, and scenic routes, accompanied by plenty of bumps and flat tires. Through adaptation and countless obstacles, I navigated a less-traveled road—a highway leading to self-awareness and recovery. I want to pause a moment to express my heartfelt gratitude to each of you here today reading this. I know you have faced your own battles, and your presence signifies that you’ve found hope after being hurt and discovered the courage to keep showing up for yourselves. Thank you for allowing me the space to be vulnerable and share my story.

Before I dive into my successes, I must be honest about the struggles and losses I've faced—mostly at my own hands, but also at the hands of others. I am a survivor of complex trauma, navigating a world shaped by anxiety and depression. I received a late diagnosis of ADHD. For thirty years, I excelled at being what everyone else needed, so much so that I lost sight of who I was and what I truly wanted in life. I thought I had it all figured out, only to find myself in the ER at 18, convinced I was having a heart attack. The doctors told me my EKG results were immaculate. When I asked what it could mean, they casually dismissed it as “just a panic attack.” But how could that be? For years, I had expressed sympathy for those struggling with diagnoses, convinced that I was “fine.” My subconscious was screaming to be heard, and I simply ignored it. My college years became a whirlwind of chaos—fun, unhealthy coping mechanisms, and the persistent belief that I was okay.

Reflecting on the little girl born in June of 1990 is bittersweet. She faced challenges far beyond her years yet handled them with grace. Joyful, kind, confident, talkative, and emotionally mature, she saw the good in everyone, even in those who struggled to show it. I envy her resilience; she loved freely, expecting nothing in return. Perhaps I envy her because I am “her”—the same essence still resides within me. But I was naïve to the toll this ability to love could take on my bright spirit.

As years passed, friendships and romantic relationships flowed through cycles of joy, confusion, love, and heartache. I took a break from school to pursue promotions at work, where I felt valued and connected.

Becoming a mom was a beautiful chapter in my story. I thrived in that role, embracing the joys and challenges of motherhood in a new city. The love I felt for my son was unconditional, profound, and hard to articulate. Three and a half years later, I became pregnant with my second son, who also brought immense joy and tenderness into my life. Both my boys enriched my existence, and their uniqueness taught me how to love two individuals exactly as they were meant to be.

Despite the chaos, I cherish being a mother. Yet motherhood can be overwhelming—there are countless tasks to juggle, financial stresses, and the constant responsibility of ensuring another’s safety. While it brings an abundance of love, it also magnifies feelings of inadequacy. I was terrified of letting my boys down, leading me to second-guess myself repeatedly. My untreated anxiety intensified, occasionally spiraling into depression. Eventually, I found myself waking up and merely going through the motions. A neck injury compounded my sense of being lost, but counseling became a vital lifeline, providing me with a space to be heard.

When we moved to Montana, a place steeped in cherished childhood memories, my dreams began to take shape. I found a new flicker of hope, returning to work while my boys started school. But then I faced another challenge: my youngest’s regression with Autism. He lost his language and many of the abilities I had treasured. I mourned the child I once knew while stepping up to be the mother he needed.

I resumed counseling, and after two years of revisiting the same struggles, my therapist delivered a powerful revelation: “If you’re unhappy with your life, you have two choices. You can completely change how your life looks, or you need to find better solutions to feel comfortable in your current situation.” It was an awakening moment.

Four years ago, I grew weary of my narrative and finally admitted the truth: I was the only one who could change my life. I learned to listen to my inner voice and advocate for myself. EMDR therapy became transformative, helping me reclaim my life. Today, my boys are thriving. I’ve met a wonderful partner who loves me for who I am. I’ve embraced the role of being a bonus to a beautiful little girl. I am passionate about my work and a fierce advocate for others. My experiences have granted me the ability to meet people where they are, recognizing that the fundamental human need is connection. With even a glimmer of hope, beautiful transformations can occur.

Now, I stand proud of the person I see in the mirror. When I need a reminder, the little girl within me whispers that I am joyful, kind, confident, talkative, curious, and emotionally mature. I understand how the world works, and I strive to treat even the unloving with compassion. We are all born good, and we are all doing our best.

Generated with AI and edited by Lea Wetzel, Family Peer Supporter

April 16, 2024

Embarking on the path of peer-based work, my journey began with volunteering in groups and local recovery meetings. Guided by mentors who have walked the path of recovery themselves, I learned the importance of striking a balance between receiving peer support and giving back through volunteering. This journey has led me to immerse myself in various councils, committees, and boards, contributing my time and skills to initiatives close to my heart.

One significant volunteering opportunity emerged when I joined the local human trafficking and Missing and Murdered Indigenous People (MMIP) task force. Three years down the line, I found myself at the helm of the organization as its director. This experience not only allowed me to make a tangible difference in my community but also opened doors to further engagement. Presently, I serve on three Montana Department of Corrections councils, alongside continuing my voluntary involvement in other statewide and community causes.

Volunteering in the world of recovery has proven to be a profoundly impactful tool for personal growth and community contribution. Research substantiates the notion that volunteering not only enhances individual well-being but also fosters a sense of purpose and connection. For those of us in recovery, giving our time and support is deeply ingrained in our culture. Whether it's lending a hand at family gatherings, participating in community events, or championing larger causes, volunteering serves as a poignant reminder of our commitment to the greater good.

Beyond the altruistic benefits, volunteering allows me to transcend self-centeredness and engage in meaningful work that uplifts others. It serves as a constant reminder of the journey I've traveled and the support I've received along the way. By giving back, I not only express gratitude for the help I've received but also create opportunities for others to experience the transformative power of community support.

In essence, volunteering in recovery is a reciprocal act of healing and empowerment. It provides a platform for individuals to share their experiences, offer support, and work towards collective well-being. As I continue on this journey of peer-based work, I am reminded of the profound impact that volunteering has had on my life and the lives of those around me. It is through acts of service and selflessness that we truly find meaning and fulfillment, both in recovery and beyond.
Volunteering is a powerful force that transcends borders, cultures, and generations. It's an act of selflessness that not only benefits those in need but also enriches the lives of volunteers themselves. In this article, we'll delve into the facts surrounding volunteering and explore some of the best practices to make your volunteering experience impactful and fulfilling.

Volunteering is Universal: Regardless of where you are, there are opportunities to volunteer. From local community initiatives to international humanitarian organizations, there's a cause waiting for your contribution.

Diverse Benefits: Volunteering is not just about giving; it's also about receiving. Studies have shown that volunteers experience improved mental and physical health, increased happiness, and a sense of purpose and fulfillment.

Economic Impact: The value of volunteering is enormous. According to the Corporation for National and Community Service, volunteers in the United States alone contribute billions of dollars worth of service each year.

Social Cohesion: Volunteering strengthens communities by fostering social connections and empathy. It breaks down barriers and brings people from different backgrounds together to work towards a common goal.

Skill Development: Volunteering offers opportunities for personal and professional growth. Whether it's leadership, communication, or project management skills, volunteers often acquire valuable experience that can enhance their resumes and careers.

Best Practices for Volunteering:

Identify Your Passion: Start by identifying causes that resonate with you. Whether it's environmental conservation, education, or healthcare, choose a cause that aligns with your interests and values.

Research Organizations: Once you've identified your passion, research organizations that are actively involved in addressing the issues you care about. Look for reputable and transparent organizations with a track record of making a positive impact.

Assess Your Skills: Assess your skills and strengths to determine how to contribute best. Whether it's through hands-on work, fundraising, or providing professional expertise, there's a role for everyone in volunteering.

Set Realistic Expectations: Understand the time and resources you can commit to volunteering and set realistic expectations accordingly. It's better to make a consistent and sustainable commitment than to overextend yourself and burn out.

Communicate Effectively: Clear communication is essential for successful volunteering. Make sure you understand the organization's mission, goals, and expectations, and don't hesitate to ask questions if anything is unclear.

Be Reliable and Flexible: Reliability is key to building trust and making a meaningful impact as a volunteer. Be punctual, dependable, and willing to adapt to changing circumstances as needed.

Embrace Diversity and Inclusion: Respect and embrace diversity in all its forms within the volunteering community. Recognize and value the unique perspectives and contributions of individuals from different backgrounds.

Practice Self-Care: Volunteering can be emotionally demanding, so it's important to prioritize self-care. Take breaks when needed, seek support from fellow volunteers or professionals, and don't hesitate to ask for help if you're feeling overwhelmed.

Celebrate Achievements: Take the time to celebrate achievements and milestones, both big and small. Recognize the impact of your efforts and the positive change you're making in the world.

Reflect and Learn: Reflect on your volunteering experiences and identify areas for growth and improvement. Learning from both successes and challenges will help you become a more effective and fulfilled volunteer.

Volunteering is a powerful force for good that has the potential to transform individuals and communities alike. By understanding the facts surrounding volunteering and following best practices, you can make a meaningful difference in the world while also enriching your own life. So, whether you're lending a helping hand in your local community or embarking on a global humanitarian mission, embrace the power of volunteering and let your actions inspire positive change.

by Lea Wetzel, Drop-in Center Coordinator

July 11, 2023

For most of my life, I didn’t put much time and effort into things unless it was self-fulfilling, of some sort. I always have had a big heart and loved to help feed, support, and be there in any way I could for family and loved ones, but past that, I didn’t do much that was out of my way of comfort, and added to my own status or towards a goal that was for my own selfish needs. As I grew older, I was taught that we do what we can for others, with boundaries. I wanted the acceptance of others and turned into a “Yes” person very early in recovery. I got sober in a program that believed in incentives. It taught me as an adult, that there was appreciation and meaning in going out of my comfort zone to help others.

In ceremony, we bring “gifts” that are normally things like food, blankets, tobacco, and other meaningful items for our “rituals” in our spirituality. Our Elders share that if there is something that needs to be done, you get up and do it, if someone can use a hand, we help. All that we do in this life, does not go unseen. Whether seen by those in the seen or unseen world, nothing is unseen, or unappreciated. I started volunteering in AA, and later, in committees, on boards, and on leadership councils about 6 months to a year in recovery. I was volunteering 20-30 hours a week at a local behavioral health center, when I was asked to take PS 101, and offered a full-time position. I helped develop American Indian programming there, and also, at a local drop-in center a few months later. Around this time, was when I started sharing my story to empower and hopefully help others, in their own journey. I was supporting and empowering others like me, some in the same program as I was in, and being an example for others in my community, and across the state. It felt good to watch people I was supporting and working with, now helping others, and moving up in a positive manner in their own lives.

I started developing community events, running groups, and sponsoring a few people as well. It wasn’t too long after, that I was asked to join my local human trafficking and MMIP task force, after doing an event that I partnered with local law enforcement in developing a now, annual, “Women’s Empowerment” event, where I live. I was offered a few independent contracts to offer peer groups, where I also took a leadership position on a couple of local boards. Before I knew it, all the volunteer hard work, dedication, natural skills, and many lessons, ended up giving me leverage in my own career path. There weren’t many American Indians in this state, doing the work I was doing, I found out, in a very humbling way.

I was honored with an Innovated Community Improvement Award, by the Montana Board of Crime Control. I couldn’t believe that the same state that I caused chaos in, was awarding me, and allowing me to speak and share my story. I still volunteer and do service work in multiple ways. I am a part of the Montana Dept. of Corrections, Victim Impact Panel, and volunteered in developing a strategic plan with the Montana Attorney General’s Office, Montana Dept. of Justice, and many other organizations and agencies across the state. I continue to share my story, and give my time, and was able to lead through this effort and be a voice for other survivors of violent crimes, and human trafficking. I may not always speak on these things, but my dad always told my brother and me, we allow others to talk on our behalf because our actions are enough. Hard work and passion, with a mindset of looking at obstacles as opportunities, through doing something because it’s the right thing to do, because all in all, all we do, doesn’t get unnoticed.

Service work and volunteering turned into what I love to do, for a living. Feeling unnoticed and unseen for years of working towards being a voice can be something that can be tiresome. But, with a mindset of gratitude for having the honor to be able to be a part of developing something that will and is empowering others, is well worth it. Being able to sit back and see others that we support, going on and becoming voices of empowerment themselves, is sacred. When we walk in a sacred and honorable way, that’s respectful of ourselves and others, should always have some type of service work, and volunteering at the heart of it all. Some of the most memorable and epic people in our history started making a change through service work and volunteering. It helps those we are supporting and gives us a meaning of life and purpose that can and will affect us for a lifetime, as long as we continue to have that mindset of being grateful. Just know, effort and hard work, never goes unseen, whether it’s noticed by the seen or unseen world. We walk in a sacred way when we put time and effort that is bigger than ourselves, is a walk that we ourselves, can impact many when it’s towards a positive cause.

It’s like my favorite quote states, by Billy Mills. Our gift is the present, and our gift back to Creator is what we make of the present.