by Kayla Myers, Peer Support Coordinator

August 19, 2025

As we navigate the challenges of today's world, from political tensions to economic struggles, it’s easy to forget that the most essential part of our humanity is a simple act of kindness. On Be Kind to Humankind Week, we are gifted an opportunity not only to reflect on the value of kindness but to practice and advocate for it in our everyday lives consistently. As someone who wears multiple hats, from a peer supporter role to an advocate for social change, this week holds deeper significance.

In the role of a peer supporter, I have witnessed the ripple effect of kindness. Whether I was helping a family navigate a mental health crisis, providing emotional support to a caregiver, or simply lending a listening ear to someone in need, the power of kindness is undeniable. It’s in the small gestures. A comforting word, a shared cup of coffee, a reassuring message can make all the difference. For human beings who are fighting silent battles or going through the toughest times, these moments of human connection can be a lifeline.

However, the real challenge we face is extending that kindness beyond our immediate circles, especially in times when it feels like the world is divided. Right now, as a country, we are experiencing deep social and political division, an ongoing public health crisis, and economic instability. We are struggling to keep our heads above water, and many are feeling the weight of uncertainty and fear.

In my eyes, this is precisely the time when kindness is most needed.

As an advocate for mental health and social change, I often find myself pushing for policy shifts and societal reforms that prioritize the well-being of all people. But advocacy doesn’t stop in the halls of government or on social media platforms. It starts with each of us, in our homes, neighborhoods, and communities. The most significant change often begins with small, personal acts of kindness.

We are seeing what can feel like an overwhelming number of issues in the world right now: injustices, scrutiny for speaking out about the wrong that is being done daily, the rise of mental health struggles, and more. But I can only hope, in these moments of chaos, that kindness can act as a beacon of hope, a reminder that there is good in the world despite the noise. With life experience and with my work as a peer supporter, I’ve seen how simple acts can spark real, tangible change.

Kindness isn’t just about being nice; it’s about advocating for justice, lifting others up, and standing together in the face of adversity. It’s about showing up for the people who need us most. And right now, as a country, we need each other more than ever.

What can be done? What can you do? How do you get started? I am so glad you asked! Here is a simple list of ideas that I hope will help spark something within you so you can keep implementing small acts of kindness every day:

1. Listen Without Judgment
   Sometimes, the most powerful form of advocacy is simply being a compassionate listener. When we listen to each other’s stories without judgment or preconceived notions, we validate people’s experiences. Listening is the first step in offering support and understanding.
2. Support Mental Health Initiatives
   Mental health is at the forefront of our collective struggles today. As a peer supporter, I know the importance of advocating for more accessible, equitable, and compassionate mental health services. Kindness means standing with those who need help and fighting for resources that can change their lives.
3. Create Safe Spaces for Dialogue
   In a divided world, we need spaces where people can discuss their differences with respect and empathy. Organizing community discussions or engaging in open dialogues about current events can foster understanding, dissolve fears, and build bridges where walls once stood.
4. Leading with Empathy in Policy
   Whether advocating for healthcare, education, or economic support, it's critical to approach these issues with empathy. Policies that impact human beings should be crafted with a deep understanding of the diverse challenges people face. A kinder, more equitable society requires us to work from a place of care and compassion, not just statistics and numbers.
5. Model the Change You Want to See
   One of the most powerful ways we can spread kindness is by modeling it in our own actions. Whether it's in our families, at work, or in our communities, showing kindness in the way we interact with others sets the tone for those around us. Kindness is contagious. The more we practice it, the more it will spread.

 We are all living through trying times, but these times do not define us. What will define us is how we respond. As individuals and as a collective society, we can choose kindness, not just on Be Kind to Humankind week, but every day. Kindness in the face of adversity can heal wounds, build communities, and drive us toward a more just and compassionate world.

As someone who has walked alongside my peers in their most vulnerable moments, I can attest to the transformative power of kindness. It is the glue that holds us together when everything else feels like it's falling apart. And if there’s one thing I know, it’s that we are all capable of spreading kindness in ways that create lasting change.

So, this Be Kind to Humankind week, I encourage you to reach out. Reach out to a neighbor, a friend, a stranger, or a family member. Let them know they’re seen, heard, and valued. Advocate for policies that prioritize the well-being of ALL people. And, perhaps most importantly, remember that kindness doesn’t just change the world, it heals it.

Kindness is not just a gesture, it’s a movement. As a peer supporter, as an advocate, and as a human being, I believe in the power of kindness to heal, unite, and empower us to create a better tomorrow. Let's make this Be Kind to Humankind week the start of something bigger. Let's make it a reminder that, no matter how dark the world may seem, kindness will always be the light that guides us home.

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by Kayla Myers, Peer Support coordinator

July 21, 2025

Every year, National Parents’ Day comes and goes, and honestly, I didn’t even know it existed until a few years ago. There are no balloons or wrapped gifts. No themed parties, school plays, or glittery cards like we see on Mother’s Day or Father’s Day. And honestly? That’s what makes it feel more real to me.

Parenting doesn’t usually look like a greeting card. It’s unfiltered. It’s behind the scenes. It’s deeply personal. It’s also the hardest, but most sacred, thing I’ve ever done.

Parenting is early mornings with tired eyes and late nights filled with worry. It’s asking myself, Did I say the right thing? Was I too soft? Too strict? Too distracted? Too emotional? Am I giving them enough? Am I enough? It’s making a thousand decisions a day and second-guessing at least half of them. It’s pouring from a cup that sometimes feels empty, and still showing up the next day with whatever strength I can find. Because their love keeps me going.

And yet, even in the chaos, there is so much beauty.

There’s laughter that echoes through the house, sometimes because of something silly, sometimes for no reason at all. There are milestones—and messy milestones. Little victories that might go unnoticed by the world, but mean everything to us. There are those quiet, sacred moments when I look at my kids and catch a glimpse of the people they’re becoming, and I think, “I get to be their mom.” That thought alone has carried me through some of the toughest days.

Parenting doesn’t come with a manual. I learned that fast the day I brought my oldest home from the hospital. And no two parenting journeys look the same. There are seasons of pure joy, and there are seasons that feel like sheer survival. I’ve had to learn to let go of the idea that I need to do it all on my own. I’ve leaned on the support of other parents. I’ve asked for help, even when it was hard. And I’ve reminded myself that perfection isn’t the goal, presence is.

So this month, in honor of National Parents’ Day, I want to pause and recognize all of us who are simply doing the best we can.

Whether you’re a birth parent, adoptive parent, foster parent, bonus parent, grandparent raising grandchildren, or a chosen parent, your love matters. Your consistency matters. YOU matter.

Let’s keep building each other up. Let’s offer grace instead of guilt. Let’s remind ourselves—and each other—that even on the hardest days, we are doing something deeply meaningful.

Because at the heart of parenting lies a quiet, powerful truth: we are shaping lives with our love. It may be messy. It may be imperfect. But it is real and it is enough.

From one parent to another: Happy National Parents’ Day. You’re doing better than you think.

With love and solidarity,
A fellow mom who gets it

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by Kayla Myers, Peer Support coordinator

June 24, 2025

I’m a mom of boys, loud, messy, hilarious, curious, deep-feeling boys.

And if I’m honest, one of my greatest hopes, besides them eventually learning to do their laundry and clean up after themselves, is that they grow into men who feel safe being whole. Not just strong or stoic or successful. But soft when they need to be. Honest. Vulnerable. Supported.

Because here’s the truth, one I’ve heard from every mom of boys and quietly carried myself: the world still struggles to let our sons be fully human.

We tell our kids, “It’s okay to cry,” but somewhere between kindergarten and manhood, that message gets lost. Replaced by phrases like “man up,” “don’t be soft,” and “real men don’t talk about their feelings.” And those words don’t just bounce off; they sink in. They settle deep.

As moms, we see their hearts before the world tells them to hide them. We see the quiet anxiety before the tough-guy mask forms. We know the pressure they carry in silence, the self-doubt buried behind humor, the frustration when they don’t have the words to explain what’s going on inside.

June is Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month. And if it reminds me of anything, it’s this:

We don’t just need to raise good men.
We need to raise whole men.

Men who know it's okay to ask for help.
Men who’ve had practice expressing what they feel.
Men who’ve seen someone care about what’s happening beneath the surface.

Here’s what I’m doing, or I should say, what I’m trying, daily:

• I ask them how they’re feeling, and I try not to rush past the silence.
• I talk about therapy like it’s normal, because it is.
• I praise emotional honesty just as much as achievements.
• I work on asking for help myself, because they’re always watching.

In my eyes, no boy should grow up believing his feelings make him weak.

So, whether you're a parent, an aunt, a coach, a teacher, or a friend, be part of the voice that says:

You don’t have to pretend you're okay when you’re not.
You’re not less of a man for needing support.
You’re more of one for knowing when to reach out.

To my sons, and all the boys growing into men:
Your mind matters.
Your emotions matter.
You matter.

Let’s raise them to believe it.

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by Kayla Myers, Peer Support Coordinator

January 28, 2025

April is Autism Awareness Month, a time that holds deep meaning for my family and countless others around the world. My son is almost 9 years old, and he is non-speaking. While he may not use words in the way most people do, he communicates in a hundred other beautiful, meaningful ways. I am always seeking the words for my personal hero, my son.

When I first heard the words “your child is on the autism spectrum,” I felt everything at once: fear, love, confusion, and an overwhelming desire to understand what the future might hold. I imagined the challenges he might face, the misunderstandings, the uphill battles. But what I couldn’t yet see was how much he would teach me. He has taught me valuable lessons about patience, resilience, perspective, and the power of connection that doesn’t require words.

Our days are filled with routines and rhythms that make sense to him. He used to spend hours lining up his toys in a way only he could understand, watching water swirling endlessly down the drain, and listening to the same song over and over again. These are just the things that bring him comfort and joy. They are just a few examples of how he experiences the world. And when I slow down and truly see things through his eyes, I realize how much intention, beauty, and clarity live in the moments that I used to overlook.

He may be non-speaking, but he is never silent. His laughter lights up the room when something speaks his language. His eyes sparkle when he wants to share a moment with me. His hands flap joyfully when he’s proud of himself or when he is excited. And when he’s overwhelmed, I feel his pain in my bones. Even when he doesn’t say, “Mom, I need help,” I know. And I respond with everything I have.

One of the greatest lessons I’ve learned as a mother is this: communication is so much more than words. It’s gestures, eye contact, presence, energy, and love. In our home, we celebrate every form of expression. Whether it’s pointing, using a communication device, pulling me toward what he needs, or simply placing his hand in mine when he’s seeking comfort. These are his words. And they are valid. They are powerful. And this is when I feel so connected to the idea of connection.

I’ve always been a people person. I may not excel at the things most people do, but I get people. I easily read between the lines, I am very aware of the subtle shifts in body language, the emotion behind a glance, the weight carried in a quiet moment. I’ve come to understand that everyone has a story, and that what we see on the surface is just one layer of many. I know that life can be painful. And I find grace in my ability to hold space for others, not to fix or solve, but simply to sit with them in their pain, to truly see them, and to understand even just a fragment of what they’re carrying.

But it’s my son, my beautiful, non-speaking son — who has helped me take that ability to a deeper level. He has taught me how to truly listen without words, how to tune in to the language of presence, energy, and emotion. In walking alongside him, I’ve learned to support what’s unspoken with more compassion and clarity than I ever thought possible.

Autism Awareness Month is about more than awareness, it’s about acceptance, understanding, and celebration. It’s about recognizing that autistic individuals, whether they speak or not, bring extraordinary strengths, perspectives, and beauty into this world. My son has shown me that every child deserves to be seen, heard, and honored exactly as they are.

So if you’re reading this, I invite you to lean in. Listen. Learn. Unlearn. Listen to parents like me, yes — but more importantly, listen to autistic individuals themselves. Their voices matter most. They are the true experts on their own experience. And often, the very people the world tries to speak for.

Let’s build a world where all kinds of communication are valued, where neurodiversity is not just accepted but embraced, and where being non-speaking never means being unheard.

To my beautiful boy: you are brave, man, you are brave. You are brilliant and I know more brilliant than I could even understand. And you are deeply loved, exactly as you are. I will always be your voice until the world learns how to truly listen. 

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by Kayla Myers, Peer Support Coordinator

January 28, 2025 

As a peer supporter, I’ve seen how empowering it can be when someone takes control of their own story and their own journey toward healing. The national “I Am in Control Day” is a reminder for all of us. Whether we are supporting others or working on our own personal growth, we have the ability to take charge of our lives, make choices, and advocate for what we need. It’s a day to celebrate our strength and remind ourselves that, no matter the circumstances, we have the power to harness and create positive change.

“I Am in Control Day” is an annual observance dedicated to raising awareness about the importance of self-empowerment, self-advocacy, and the ability to take control of our mental, physical, and emotional well-being. It’s a day to reflect on the power of choice and the freedom we have to take charge of our lives, no matter where we are in our journey.

For those of us in the peer support community, this day holds special significance. It’s a reminder that the work we do is not just about providing assistance or guidance. It’s about helping people recognize and harness their own strength. We’re not here to “fix” others, but to walk alongside them as they find the courage to make their own decisions and take control of their healing process.

One of the most powerful aspects of being a peer supporter is that we get to witness people making choices that directly impact their well-being. Whether it’s seeking therapy, starting a new hobby, setting healthy boundaries, or simply reaching out for support. These choices are significant steps toward reclaiming control. It’s important to acknowledge that taking control doesn’t mean everything will go perfectly or that we’ll have all the answers. Control isn’t about perfection. It’s about having a network, feeling like we have a say in what happens to us, and recognizing that even small steps forward are powerful.

As a family peer supporter, I make it a point to empower those I work with to see the value in their decisions, no matter how small they may seem. I help them understand that they’re the ones in the driver’s seat. And, more importantly, that it’s okay to ask for help and that reaching out is a form of strength, not weakness.

One of the key aspects of “I Am in Control Day” is remembering that we control our own narratives. In many areas of life, society can try to define us based on our circumstances, struggles, or setbacks. But we don’t have to accept those labels or limitations. We are not our struggles. We are not defined by our past. We are who we choose to be in this moment, and we have the power to shape our future. In peer support, I encourage others to reflect on how they view themselves. I ask them to consider what they want their narrative to be, rather than what others may have told them it should be. This doesn’t mean erasing the challenges we’ve faced but rather reframing them. When recognizing it this way, the way we respond to adversity is what truly defines us.

Self-advocacy is another key element of “ I Am in Control Day”. Being able to speak up for our needs, set boundaries, and assert ourselves is an essential part of taking control. For many people, this is a difficult skill to develop, especially when they’ve been told their needs don’t matter or they’ve been conditioned to put others first. As a peer supporter, one of my most important roles is to help people build self-advocacy skills. I work with them on how to communicate their needs clearly and confidently, and how to advocate for the support, resources, and care they deserve. This could be as simple as asking for time off when they’re overwhelmed or seeking professional help when they need it. Self-advocacy is about recognizing your worth and standing up for yourself when it’s time to do so.

“I Am in Control Day” is more than just a day for awareness; it’s a call to action. It’s an opportunity to reflect on how we can take control of our lives and inspire others to do the same. It reminds us that our power is within us, and we have the ability to make choices that lead to healing, growth, and well-being. As a peer supporter, I’ve seen how transformative it can be when someone realizes they have the power to control their story. I’ve seen people take their first steps toward recovery, speak up for the help they need, and, most importantly, believe in themselves. On “ I Am in Control Day”, I encourage everyone to take a moment to reflect on their own journey, acknowledge their strength, and celebrate the choices that have empowered them.

So, whether you’re someone receiving support or someone offering it, take this day as a reminder that you are in control. You have the power to take charge of your well-being, shape your own narrative, and advocate for yourself. And as a peer supporter, I’ll continue to walk alongside you, cheering you on every step of the way.

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Written by Kayla Myer
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February 25, 2025

Every year as winter approaches, I start to dread the days ahead. Even before summer or fall has ended, I find myself mourning their passing while still living in those seasons. I know the days will soon grow shorter and the nights longer, and I brace myself for the arrival of the infamous "winter blues." Whether it's the colder weather, the lack of sunlight, or the post-holiday slump, this time of year can be particularly challenging for my mental health. As a peer supporter, I’ve had the privilege of walking alongside others through difficult seasons, and I know firsthand how real and heavy these feelings can be. But the good news? We don’t have to face them alone.

The "winter blues" is a common term used to describe the seasonal dip in mood that many people experience. For some, it can manifest as mild sadness, fatigue, or irritability. For others, it may develop into something more severe, such as Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), a form of depression triggered by seasonal changes. While the severity varies, the struggle is real, and acknowledging it is the first step toward finding relief (generated using ChatGPT).

For myself, once I started to understand how the “winter blues” manifested in me, I was able to implement my wellness tools into moments that felt daunting. Over the years, I’ve learned that small, intentional actions can make a big difference. Here are some approaches that have helped both myself and those I support:

1. Embrace the Light

Sunlight plays a crucial role in regulating our mood. If you can, try to get outside during daylight hours, even if it’s just for a short walk. If natural sunlight is scarce, consider using a light therapy lamp, which can help mimic the benefits of natural light and improve mood.

2. Stay Active

Exercise is a powerful mood booster. It doesn’t have to be intense, even gentle movements like yoga, stretching, or a short dance session can help release endorphins and combat sluggishness.

3. Connect with Others

Isolation often worsens the winter blues. Reaching out to my support system helps me stay grounded. Even a simple text, phone call, or video chat can lift my spirits and remind me that I’m not alone.

4. Nourish Your Body and Mind

What we eat can impact how we feel. Incorporating nutrient-rich foods into my diet, including vitamins, and whole foods that fuel my body. Equally important, nourish your mind. I practice mindfulness, gratitude, or journaling to process my emotions.

5. Create Comforting Rituals

Small moments of joy can make a huge difference. Whether it’s lighting a scented candle, wrapping up in a warm blanket with a good book or watching a show, or listening to uplifting music, I try to find little ways to bring warmth and comfort into my daily routine.

6. Seek Support When Needed

I don’t take these helpful tips lightly because I know how hard it can be to implement them when my brain feels heavy. Sometimes, despite our best efforts, the weight of the winter blues can feel overwhelming. And that’s okay. If your feelings persist or become too difficult to manage, don’t hesitate to seek support. There is strength in asking for help.

One of the most important things I’ve learned as a peer supporter is the power of shared experiences. No matter how isolating the winter blues may feel, you are not alone in this struggle. There is a community of people who understand, care, and are willing to walk this journey with you. So, as we navigate these colder, darker months together, let’s lean on one another, embrace small victories, and remember that brighter days are ahead. Spring always follows winter, and in the meantime, we can find warmth in connection, self-care, and hope. If you’re feeling down this season, reach out. To a friend, a peer supporter, a mental health professional, or whoever is your support system. You deserve support, and you are worth the effort it takes to care for yourself.

by Kayla Myers, Peer Support coordinator

January 28, 2025

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As a Family Peer Supporter, I've had the privilege of standing beside families during some of the most significant moments in their lives. Our journeys are filled with challenges, moments of joy, and an unwavering commitment to doing what’s best for our children and loved ones. But through it all, one thing stands out: the undeniable power of our voices and the gift of our lived experiences.

One of the most powerful ways we can make an impact as families in our state is through advocacy, especially when we have the chance to speak directly to the lawmakers who shape policies that affect OUR lives. Legislative sessions offer a unique opportunity for our stories, experiences, and voices to be heard in a way that can create real, lasting change. And trust me, when our voices are heard in those rooms, the ripple effects can be life-changing.

As a Family Peer Supporter and a mom, I've learned firsthand how policy decisions can dramatically shape the quality of life for families, especially those of us caring for children and loved ones with disabilities, mental health challenges, or other special needs. Lawmakers are the ones who make decisions on funding, services, and programs that impact our daily lives. But how can they truly understand our needs if they don’t hear directly from those of us who rely on these services? That’s why our stories are so crucial, they bring a depth and human element to the issue that reports and statistics can't capture. When we speak, we speak from experience. Not as distant observers, but as people who live these challenges every… single… day. Our voices in legislative sessions remind lawmakers that these aren’t abstract issues. They’re the lived realities of families just like ours.

I’ve seen the incredible power of a family member advocating in these spaces. When families speak at hearings, town halls, or meetings, it’s remarkable. Lawmakers begin to see us. They start to understand the daily hurdles we face in navigating complex systems, accessing resources, and fighting for the support our children and families need. Our stories give a face to the policies being discussed, making them real, not just a number on a page. When we share how these policies impact our children’s well-being, we open doors for more inclusive, equitable, and accessible programs.

But the impact goes beyond the laws themselves. It's about shifting the culture, showing lawmakers that family voices aren’t just “nice to have” but are essential to creating policies that truly serve the people they’re meant to protect. Advocacy isn’t just about delivering a speech and walking away; it's about building relationships, keeping the conversation going, and ensuring our voices stay in the room long after a legislative session ends. When we show up, we’re not just asking for services or funding, we’re advocating for the future of our families and children. We’re making it clear that we are active participants in shaping the systems that affect our lives, not passive recipients of policy decisions.

Advocacy should always be grounded in respect and understanding. Legislative spaces can be filled with strong opinions and passionate debates, but I’ve learned that the most effective advocacy happens through thoughtful, respectful conversation. That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t speak urgently about our needs, it means we approach those conversations with an open heart, ready to listen, as well as to speak. Advocacy with respect creates an atmosphere where we can find common ground, even with those who may not fully grasp the challenges we face. Constructive dialogue isn’t just about pushing for solutions; it's about engaging in a process of learning, growth, and change.

I urge you to find your voice in legislative sessions. Don’t underestimate the power of your story. Every act of advocacy, whether testifying at a hearing or having a one-on-one conversation with a policymaker makes a difference. When we speak with honesty and integrity, we not only amplify our own experiences but also pave the way for others to be heard. We have a responsibility to stand up for what is right, to ensure that the needs of families are met, and to hold our lawmakers accountable for their promises. The presence of our voices in legislative rooms is profound.

So, let’s keep showing up. Let’s keep speaking up. And most importantly, let’s keep demanding a world where our voices aren’t just heard, they are truly listened to and respected. Together, we can create lasting change, one voice at a time.

by Kayla Myers, Peer Support coordinator

January 23, 2025

As a mother of a son with Autism, the International Day of Acceptance holds deep personal significance for me. It’s a day to reflect, celebrate, and share the importance of understanding and embracing our children. Especially those whose voices may not be heard in the traditional sense. My son, like many others with Autism, is nonverbal. This means he does not communicate with words in the way most people do. But despite the silence, he communicates in many profound ways. Sometimes through his actions, his eyes, and his presence.

International Day of Acceptance is a reminder that every person, regardless of their abilities, deserves to be embraced for who they are. It’s a day for the world to look beyond diagnoses, move past assumptions, and to focus on the value of each individual. It’s a day to affirm that differences do not diminish worth.

As a mom, my journey has been filled with challenges, but it has also been filled with extraordinary growth and learning. Autism, in all its forms, is not something that needs to be fixed. It’s something that should be embraced, understood, respected, and supported. Yes, my son’s Autism is a part of him, but so is his laughter, his love for music, and his unique way of seeing the world. Being nonverbal means that my son doesn’t use speech to express his needs or feelings. I’m convinced it must be isolating for him. But it has also taught me to listen in new ways. I’ve learned to pay attention to the subtle cues: the way his vocal stims change based on how he’s feeling, the way his arms flap when he’s excited, the way he tugs at my hand when he needs something, the way his eyes light up when he’s engaging with something that fascinates him. These moments are communication. His language is one that speaks volumes even without a single word.

Acceptance is everything. But it’s about more than tolerance. It’s about truly recognizing humanity in each person, whether or not, they fit the mold of what society expects. On this day, I want people to understand that my son, though nonverbal, is not any less capable of experiencing joy, love, or connection. He has his own rhythm and his own voice. One that doesn’t need to be heard in words to be meaningful. I see the world sometimes treating individuals with Autism as if they are broken or in need of fixing. But I’ve come to realize that my son is not broken. He is exactly who he is meant to be. And while we work together to support his development, through therapy and other interventions. What he needs most is acceptance. He doesn’t need the world to change him. He needs the world to embrace him, to make space for his uniqueness, and to see the brilliance that exists within him.

International Day of Acceptance isn’t just about raising awareness of Autism. It’s about creating an inclusive world where all individuals, regardless of how they communicate or move through life, can thrive. It’s about schools, workplaces, and communities that recognize and value neurodiversity, that offer support systems to help everyone succeed. It’s about breaking down the barriers that exist in our perceptions, and instead, cultivating a society where differences are celebrated.

As a mother, I envision a world where my son’s voice, whether spoken or not, is heard. A world where he feels seen, understood, and accepted. He is deserving of love, friendship, and opportunity, just like any other child. My hope is that the International Day of Acceptance can serve as a reminder to all of us: that no matter how we communicate, or what challenges we may face, we are all worthy of respect and kindness. If you see my son and others like him, don’t shy away because he isn’t speaking. Don’t feel uncomfortable because you don’t understand his needs immediately. Instead, take a moment to learn from him. Engage with him in the ways he invites, whether it’s through a smile, a shared look, or an action. Ask questions. Offer patience. Offer kindness. My son’s silence does not define him. It is simply one of many ways that he experiences and interacts with the world. He is intelligent, creative, funny, and full of life. His Autism is just one part of who he is. An aspect of him that shapes his world in beautiful and unique ways.

This International Day of Acceptance, I ask for more than awareness. I ask for understanding. I ask for respect. I ask for a world where my son, and all children with any disability, can feel the embrace of acceptance, today and every day.

by Kayla Myers, Family Peer Supporter

December 17, 2024

Dear Fellow Parent,

I know exactly what you're going through right now. It might not always seem like it, but you are doing an incredible job. Sometimes, in the whirlwind of daily life, you are managing school pickups, making sure the meals are ready, keeping track of doctor's appointments, handling tantrums (both big and small), and let's not forget the never-ending laundry. You may forget that what you're doing is nothing short of amazing.

I’ve been there, too. I know what it feels like when you’re so wrapped up in your kids’ needs and schedules that your own gets lost in the shuffle. You might have the constant feeling of being "on," that there’s always something to do for someone else. And I get it, parenting, with all its beautiful chaos, can consume every bit of your time and energy.

But I want to remind you of something important: You are more than just a parent.

I’m saying this but not lightly because I know you play a vital role in your kids’ lives, but to help you remember that in the middle of all this giving, you deserve to take care of yourself too. You are an individual with hopes, dreams, passions, and needs that are just as important as the ones your children have. Being a great parent doesn’t mean losing yourself in the process.

Think about it this way: how can we give our best to our children if we aren't caring for ourselves? You’ve probably heard the analogy of putting on your oxygen mask first before helping others. It’s true. If you’re running on empty, it’s hard to fill anyone else's cup. You deserve moments of rest, joy, and self-care. You deserve to nurture your well-being, even if it means asking for help or carving out time for yourself. It's so easy to slip into the routine of putting your needs last. But taking care of yourself isn’t selfish. It’s self-preservation. It shows your children that it's okay to care for your mental and physical health. It’s demonstrating that balance and self-respect are essential to living a full life. A life that doesn’t just revolve around obligations but also includes joy and fulfillment. You are setting an example for them by showing that taking time for self-care isn’t just acceptable, it’s your lifeline.

Don’t get me wrong, I have rolled my eyes more than once at the thought of trying to practice self-care and at all the very impractical suggestions. But maybe it’s a cup of coffee in peace before the kids wake up. Or a 20-minute walk by yourself. Or even sitting in your car for five minutes after grocery shopping to just breathe. Or one of my favorites, blasting my favorite song in my headphones or in my car and singing at the top of my lungs. Whatever it is, permit yourself to take it. Those moments add up, and before you know it, you’ll start feeling recharged and more present when you are with your family.

And while we’re on the topic, let’s talk about grace. You’re doing your best, and that’s enough. If things don’t always go according to plan, if the house isn’t spotless, or if the kids eat cereal for dinner again, don’t beat yourself up. Perfection is overrated. The fact that you’re showing up each day with love and commitment is more than enough. The children you are raising are seeing your effort and love, even on the hardest days.

So, here’s my reminder to you: You matter. Your needs matter. Your physical health, mental health, and emotional well-being, matter. You are a beautiful, strong, and capable person who deserves time and care just as much as anyone else in your home.

Thank you for everything you do. I see you. And I hope you can take a moment today to see yourself, too, for all the wonderful things you are both as a parent and an individual. You are doing great.

From someone who also needs this reminder often,
A Fellow Parent

(Edited and enhanced with ChatGPT)

By Kayla Myers, Family Peer Supporter

November 19, 2024

To celebrate National Child’s Day, I find myself reflecting on the incredible journey of motherhood and the two beautiful boys who have forever changed my life. It’s a day to honor children, yes, but for me, it’s also a moment to pause and truly appreciate the little hands that grip mine so tightly, the laughter that echoes through our home, and the endless moments of joy and challenges that come with raising two unique and wonderful souls.

I still remember the day each of my boys was born, how I felt a rush of love so deep it felt like it could never be contained. Years later, that love continues to evolve into something even more profound. Watching them grow and navigate the world makes me marvel at their strength, curiosity, and boundless imagination. Each day they remind me of the simplest things like a butterfly on a spring morning or the joy summer time approaching brings with warm weather and longer days. They both have so much beauty and magic in their souls, I am so thankful to watch them grow. In their eyes, life is an adventure; every day is an opportunity to learn and discover something new.

Easton is my firstborn and is a wild spirit, the one who keeps us on our toes. He’s full of energy, always moving, always asking questions. My youngest is the thinker, and Easton is the doer. He doesn’t wait for the world to come to him, he runs headfirst into it. His confidence is contagious. It’s impossible to feel sad when Easton is around. He has this way of making even the most mundane activities feel like an exciting adventure. Whether he's telling a joke, building a tower that’s taller than he is, or exploring the backyard like it’s a jungle, Easton brings an infectious joy to our home that makes life feel like one big celebration.

Bryce, my youngest, is an old soul in a young body. He’s the quiet thinker, the one who keeps to himself and finds joy in the simple things in life. Although he is non-verbal, his curiosity never seems to have limits, and his mind is always working. What I admire most about him is his ability to touch your heart and soul without saying a single word. Even at a young age, he has this incredible ability to sense when someone needs comfort, whether it's his family, someone he knows well, or a stranger. It humbles me to watch him interact with the world in such a thoughtful way.

On National Children’s Day, I think about what it means to raise these two boys. How I am both a teacher and a student in this journey of parenthood. They are constantly teaching me to be more patient, more present, and more open to the world around me. I have learned to find joy in the smallest moments. Whether it’s a homemade card that reads “I love you, Mom” or the way they both rush to greet me after school, faces lit up with excitement to share the details of their day.

I also reflect on the responsibility that comes with being their parent. Every decision I make, every lesson I teach, and every word I say, will shape their understanding of the world. I want them to grow up knowing they are loved unconditionally, that kindness is one of the most important virtues, and that they are capable of achieving anything they set their hearts to. I want them to embrace their uniqueness, to be proud of who they are, and to never lose their sense of wonder.

Being a mom is a wild ride, but I wouldn’t change it for the world. Watching my boys grow and develop into their own little people, each with their own dreams, quirks, and strengths, fills me with love and pride that words often fail to capture. National Child’s Day serves as a reminder to celebrate not just the joys of being a child but the incredible privilege it is to be a parent.

To my boys, Easton and Bryce: thank you for making every day an adventure. Thank you for showing me what true joy and love look like. You are my heart, my world, and my greatest blessings. I can’t wait to see where life takes us next.

Happy National Child’s Day! Here’s to all the giggles, the messes, the milestones, and the beautiful moments we share together. You are my everything.

*Edited and Formatted: ChatGPT

As a parent of a nonverbal child with autism, our journey has been a tapestry woven with both challenges and triumphs. One of the most significant threads in this tapestry has been understanding sensory processing disorder (SPD) and its profound impact on my son. SPD is often found in children on the autism spectrum and manifests in various sensitivities and reactions to sensory stimuli. By sharing our experiences, I hope not only to advocate for my son but also to raise awareness and support others who are facing similar challenges.

Sensory processing disorder refers to the brain’s difficulty in interpreting and responding to sensory information. This can include sensitivities to light, sound, touch, taste, and smell. For children like my son, everyday environments can become overwhelming and stressful, leading to withdrawal or, when multiple irritations stack up, meltdowns.

Simple activities, such as grocery shopping or attending social gatherings, can be daunting for my son. Bright lights and loud noises in stores often lead to sensory overload. I vividly remember a trip to a crowded supermarket; the bright fluorescents seemed to pulse, and the announcements echoed. My son quickly became agitated, covering his ears, his stimming became louder, and he was tensing up. In that moment, I realized that what might seem like a routine errand to others was an overwhelming experience for him.

At home, certain textures can trigger strong reactions. For instance, he struggles with shirts that feel staticky against his skin, finding certain fabrics unbearable. This has taught me the importance of being mindful of his clothing choices and providing comfortable alternatives. Food can also be particularly challenging; he tends to avoid trying new things and prefers to stick to familiar favorites.

Through trial and error, we’ve developed strategies to help him navigate these sensory challenges. Here are some approaches that have worked for us:

1. Creating a Sensory Retreat: We’ve designated his room as a “sensory retreat.” It’s equipped with soft pillows, weighted blankets, dim lights, a soft rug, a rocking chair, and calming toys. When he feels overwhelmed, he knows he can retreat to this safe space to decompress.
2. Establishing Routine: A consistent daily routine has helped my son feel more secure. Knowing what to expect reduces anxiety and prepares him for sensory-rich environments.
3. Visual Supports: Visual schedules, social stories, and his communication device have been invaluable in preparing him for new experiences. By explaining what he might encounter, we can discuss potential challenges and strategies in advance.
4. Stimming: I’ve witnessed how stimming helps my son regulate his emotions and navigate challenging situations. For example, during a busy family gathering, the noise and commotion can quickly become overwhelming. In those moments, I see him begin to pace or hum softly to himself, “eee”. This rhythmic movement offers him a sense of grounding, helping him find calm amidst the chaos. Stimming, or self-stimulatory behavior, encompasses a wide range of actions, such as hand-flapping, rocking, spinning, or making sounds. For many children with autism, these behaviors serve as a way to self-soothe, manage sensory overload, or simply express joy. It’s a natural response to their unique ways of interacting with the world around them.

As we navigate the complexities of SPD together, I’ve learned to embrace my son’s unique perspective. His heightened awareness of sensory details often leads to moments of profound wonder. He notices the rustle of leaves, the patterns of sunlight through trees, he watches every ripple and wave in the water, and the intricate details of everyday life that many of us overlook. This sensitivity, while challenging, enriches our shared experiences and deepens our connection.

Connecting with other parents of children with autism has been incredibly beneficial. Sharing stories and strategies creates a sense of community and reassurance. Support groups, both in-person and online, serve as lifelines for parents seeking understanding and advice. If you’re on a similar journey, know that you’re not alone. Together, we can navigate the complexities of sensory processing and celebrate the unique perspectives our children bring to the world. Let’s continue to learn, share, and support one another in this remarkable journey of parenthood.

Living with a son who has autism and sensory processing disorder has reshaped my understanding of the world. While the challenges of navigating what works and what doesn’t can be overwhelming, they are accompanied by moments of profound beauty and connection. By focusing on understanding his sensory needs and advocating for him, I aim to create a nurturing environment where he can thrive.

By Kayla Myers, Family Peer Supporter

September 24, 2024

“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through the experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition ignited, and success achieved.” — Helen Keller

Today, I invite you to join me on a journey. The map I was given at birth was filled with detours, unexpected stops, fast-paced highways, and scenic routes, accompanied by plenty of bumps and flat tires. Through adaptation and countless obstacles, I navigated a less-traveled road—a highway leading to self-awareness and recovery. I want to pause a moment to express my heartfelt gratitude to each of you here today reading this. I know you have faced your own battles, and your presence signifies that you’ve found hope after being hurt and discovered the courage to keep showing up for yourselves. Thank you for allowing me the space to be vulnerable and share my story.

Before I dive into my successes, I must be honest about the struggles and losses I've faced—mostly at my own hands, but also at the hands of others. I am a survivor of complex trauma, navigating a world shaped by anxiety and depression. I received a late diagnosis of ADHD. For thirty years, I excelled at being what everyone else needed, so much so that I lost sight of who I was and what I truly wanted in life. I thought I had it all figured out, only to find myself in the ER at 18, convinced I was having a heart attack. The doctors told me my EKG results were immaculate. When I asked what it could mean, they casually dismissed it as “just a panic attack.” But how could that be? For years, I had expressed sympathy for those struggling with diagnoses, convinced that I was “fine.” My subconscious was screaming to be heard, and I simply ignored it. My college years became a whirlwind of chaos—fun, unhealthy coping mechanisms, and the persistent belief that I was okay.

Reflecting on the little girl born in June of 1990 is bittersweet. She faced challenges far beyond her years yet handled them with grace. Joyful, kind, confident, talkative, and emotionally mature, she saw the good in everyone, even in those who struggled to show it. I envy her resilience; she loved freely, expecting nothing in return. Perhaps I envy her because I am “her”—the same essence still resides within me. But I was naïve to the toll this ability to love could take on my bright spirit.

As years passed, friendships and romantic relationships flowed through cycles of joy, confusion, love, and heartache. I took a break from school to pursue promotions at work, where I felt valued and connected.

Becoming a mom was a beautiful chapter in my story. I thrived in that role, embracing the joys and challenges of motherhood in a new city. The love I felt for my son was unconditional, profound, and hard to articulate. Three and a half years later, I became pregnant with my second son, who also brought immense joy and tenderness into my life. Both my boys enriched my existence, and their uniqueness taught me how to love two individuals exactly as they were meant to be.

Despite the chaos, I cherish being a mother. Yet motherhood can be overwhelming—there are countless tasks to juggle, financial stresses, and the constant responsibility of ensuring another’s safety. While it brings an abundance of love, it also magnifies feelings of inadequacy. I was terrified of letting my boys down, leading me to second-guess myself repeatedly. My untreated anxiety intensified, occasionally spiraling into depression. Eventually, I found myself waking up and merely going through the motions. A neck injury compounded my sense of being lost, but counseling became a vital lifeline, providing me with a space to be heard.

When we moved to Montana, a place steeped in cherished childhood memories, my dreams began to take shape. I found a new flicker of hope, returning to work while my boys started school. But then I faced another challenge: my youngest’s regression with Autism. He lost his language and many of the abilities I had treasured. I mourned the child I once knew while stepping up to be the mother he needed.

I resumed counseling, and after two years of revisiting the same struggles, my therapist delivered a powerful revelation: “If you’re unhappy with your life, you have two choices. You can completely change how your life looks, or you need to find better solutions to feel comfortable in your current situation.” It was an awakening moment.

Four years ago, I grew weary of my narrative and finally admitted the truth: I was the only one who could change my life. I learned to listen to my inner voice and advocate for myself. EMDR therapy became transformative, helping me reclaim my life. Today, my boys are thriving. I’ve met a wonderful partner who loves me for who I am. I’ve embraced the role of being a bonus to a beautiful little girl. I am passionate about my work and a fierce advocate for others. My experiences have granted me the ability to meet people where they are, recognizing that the fundamental human need is connection. With even a glimmer of hope, beautiful transformations can occur.

Now, I stand proud of the person I see in the mirror. When I need a reminder, the little girl within me whispers that I am joyful, kind, confident, talkative, curious, and emotionally mature. I understand how the world works, and I strive to treat even the unloving with compassion. We are all born good, and we are all doing our best.

by Kayla Myers, Family Peer Supporter

August 27, 2024

In a world that often feels divided by differences, it’s easy to forget the simple yet profound truth that binds us all: our shared humanity. Each day, we encounter many stories, experiences, and perspectives, all reflecting the richness of human existence. Amidst this diversity, one universal thread has the power to weave us together, kindness and empathy toward others who may appear different from ourselves.

Kindness isn’t just a gesture. It’s a fundamental expression of respect and empathy. It’s the gentle smile shared with a stranger, the supportive words offered to a friend in need, and the understanding extended to those whose paths we cross. It’s a language that transcends borders, cultures, and ideologies, reminding us of our common thread. Kindness encourages us to see the world through others' eyes. By practicing empathy, we bridge gaps in understanding and reduce the barriers that separate us. This doesn’t mean we are obligated to agree on everything, but we can still acknowledge and respect each other’s experiences and feelings.

Kindness can lead to significant social changes when it becomes a shared value. Communities that emphasize empathy and support tend to be more resilient and cohesive. Kindness can bridge divides, reduce conflict, and promote a culture of inclusivity. Consider the impact of kindness on issues like mental health. A culture that values kindness can reduce stigma and encourage individuals to seek help without fear of judgment. It can also combat loneliness and foster stronger social connections.

While the benefits of kindness are clear, it's not always easy to practice. Life’s stresses, personal struggles, and societal issues can sometimes make it difficult to maintain a kind disposition. However, recognizing these challenges is the first step towards overcoming them. With that being said, practicing self-kindness is a crucial part of overall change. You can't pour from an empty cup, and being kind to yourself gives you the emotional resources to extend kindness to others.

Being kind to humankind starts with a conscious choice. It requires effort and intention, but the rewards are immense. As we navigate our lives, let’s commit to making kindness a core value. It doesn’t require monumental actions; sometimes, the smallest gestures can make the biggest difference. Let’s strive to create a world where kindness is the norm, not the exception. By doing this, we not only enrich the lives of those around us but also contribute to a more compassionate and connected world.

So, the next time you find yourself faced with the choice to act, remember the power of kindness. Be kind to humankind and watch as your actions create a ripple of positivity that transforms lives and communities.

By Kayla Myers, Family Peer Supporter

July 29, 2024

Receiving an autism diagnosis for your child can feel overwhelming, but it's also the beginning of a journey filled with hope, learning, and growth. As a parent, you may experience a whirlwind of emotions, from confusion and fear to relief and determination. Understanding how to navigate this new path will be filled with challenges but will eventually help you to provide the best support for your child and family. Here’s a compassionate guide to help you through this journey.

1. Allow Yourself to Process Your Emotions
It’s natural to feel a range of emotions upon receiving an autism diagnosis. It is important to give yourself permission to grieve the loss of the "expected" path for your child and then start to embrace this new reality. Talking to a counselor or joining a support group can be invaluable during this time.

2. Educate Yourself About Autism
Knowledge is power. Educate yourself about autism spectrum disorder (ASD) by reading reputable sources, attending workshops, speaking with professionals, and listening to others who have been diagnosed with ASD. Understanding the spectrum and recognizing that each child with autism is unique will help you better support your child.

3. Build a Support Network
Connecting with other parents who have navigated an autism diagnosis can provide emotional support and practical advice. Look for local or online support groups, forums, Family Peer Supporters, and social media communities. Networking with professionals like pediatricians, therapists, and special education teachers can also provide guidance and resources.

4. Create a Comprehensive Plan
Work with professionals to develop an individualized plan for your child. This might include therapies, educational strategies, and interventions tailored to your child's needs. Be proactive in setting up evaluations and seeking out specialists to address areas like speech, occupational, and behavioral therapy.

5. Advocate for Your Child
Be prepared to advocate for your child in various settings, including school, therapy sessions, and medical appointments. Understand your child’s rights and work with educators and therapists to ensure they receive the appropriate accommodation and support.

6. Focus on Strengths and Interests
While addressing challenges is important, don’t forget to celebrate and nurture your child’s strengths and interests. Encourage activities that they enjoy and excel in, as these can boost their self-esteem and provide meaningful outlets for expression.

7. Promote a Positive Home Environment
Create a supportive and understanding home environment. Use clear communication, establish routines, and offer plenty of positive reinforcement. This helps your child feel secure and can reduce anxiety and behavioral challenges.

8. Practice Self-Care
Caring for a child with autism can be demanding. Don’t neglect your well-being. Make time for activities that rejuvenate you, seek respite care when needed, and lean on your support network. Taking care of yourself ensures you’re better equipped to support your child.

9. Stay Flexible and Patient
The journey with autism is unique for each family. Be prepared for trial and error as you find what works best for your child. Flexibility and patience are crucial, as progress may come in small, incremental steps.

10. Celebrate Milestones
Acknowledge and celebrate your child’s achievements, no matter how small they may seem. Each milestone is a testament to their hard work and growth, and recognizing these moments reinforces positive behavior and motivation.

Navigating an autism diagnosis as a parent is a journey filled with challenges and triumphs. By educating yourself, building a support network, advocating for your child, and focusing on their strengths, you can provide a nurturing and empowering environment for your child. Remember, you are not alone on this path, and with patience, resilience, and love, you can help your child thrive.
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(Written by Kayla Myers and ChatGPT was used to build an outline)

By Kayla Myers, Family Peer Supporter

June 4, 2024

Healthy relationships play a crucial role in family wellness by fostering a positive environment that supports the well-being of all family members. Mutual respect forms the foundation of healthy relationships within a family, as it cultivates a sense of equality and acceptance among family members. When family members respect each other's boundaries, opinions, and individuality, it creates a harmonious atmosphere that promotes emotional well-being. Understanding is another key component of healthy relationships in families. When family members make an effort to empathize and communicate effectively, it strengthens their bond and promotes emotional connection. By understanding each other's perspectives and experiences, family members can navigate challenges and conflicts more effectively, leading to improved overall wellness.

Support is essential in maintaining family wellness, as it creates a sense of security and belonging among family members. Providing emotional, mental, and physical support to one another during difficult times fosters resilience and strengthens family relationships. Feeling supported by family members can reduce stress, anxiety, and feelings of isolation, contributing to improved mental health and overall well-being.

Love is perhaps the most powerful factor in fostering healthy relationships within a family. Expressing love and affection towards one another creates a nurturing and caring environment that promotes emotional bonding and happiness. Love strengthens family connections, builds trust, and enhances communication, all of which are essential for maintaining family wellness. Positive relationships among family members foster a sense of belonging, support, and love, which are essential for emotional well-being. These relationships create a strong foundation for individuals to feel secure, valued, and understood within the family dynamic. Open communication within the family is another key component that contributes to emotional health. When family members feel comfortable expressing their thoughts, feelings, and concerns openly, it promotes understanding, empathy, and trust within the family. Effective communication helps address conflicts, resolve misunderstandings, and strengthen emotional connections among family members.

When mutual respect, understanding, support, and love are integral components of healthy relationships that contribute to family wellness. By cultivating these qualities within the family unit, individuals can experience greater emotional well-being, improved mental health, and enhanced overall wellness. Mental health awareness is crucial for promoting emotional well-being in families. By raising awareness about mental health issues, family members can better understand and support each other's emotional needs. Recognizing the signs of mental health challenges, seeking professional help when needed, and fostering a supportive environment for emotional well-being is essential for maintaining a healthy family dynamic.

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by Kayla Myers, Family Peer Supporter

April 23, 2024

Forgiveness should be a journey, not a destination. What I mean by that is, whether we need to forgive ourselves, friends/family, or people who have wronged us in our lives, that can be a very difficult task. That physical pain we felt, the emotional toll we went through, and the way our bodies grasped those feelings and held onto them tight, can feel like something you will truly never get over. The old saying goes, “Time heals everything.” Well, it sure doesn’t. The reason I say this is because over time, life keeps throwing us curveballs, or as experts, unlike myself like to call it, trauma. It starts stacking inside of us and piling up like deskwork in our brains. When this happens, we are walking through life with unresolved hurt inside of us, and then turn around and project it onto others. So, the very things that hurt us in the beginning, we are now doing those same things to the ones we love, friends, our children, etc.

Counseling, self-reflection, trauma work, EMDR, and a self-wellness plan have been the steps that made a difference for me. Looking back on my journey with therapy, it does make me cringe a little. I was the patient for a long time who talked about the same things repeatedly, but in different forms and with different examples. I attended talk therapy on and off for about five years. While I went every week, to every session, I felt like I was getting nowhere. I was frustrated with myself. I remember vividly thinking, “I am putting in the work on myself and I still feel so stuck and lost.” I had a shift in me one day and knew I needed to get real with myself and dive as deep as I could, so I would move into the brighter days of my life story.

Everyone’s journey is different, so keep this in mind. Any effort we put into improving our overall mental health is going to make you a more forgiving person and add wellness to your life. I have learned so much about myself and been able to forgive the hurt others have caused me, that I never thought I could. I found that where forgiveness was given, whether it’s internally or externally, that’s when my healing truly began. When you can feel yourself not reacting in self-destructive ways, as a response to the doings of others, you start to feel and see the differences in yourself, and the way others perceive you. While navigating the world of forgiveness, it is also important to offer yourself an immense amount of grace. I must constantly remind myself, “I am doing the best job I know how. And if I don’t get it right, I will learn from it and not hang onto it for dear life.” At the end of the day, we are only in charge of ourselves, right? No one else is going to come save us, I mean they can try, but we aren’t learning any lesson in being saved. Self-work comes within and owning the parts I played in the situations that hurt me deeply was my ticket to the start of freedom. I had to remember what my core values were before life happened.  I had to reflect and forgive myself for abandoning myself for so long.

When we start to process, reflect, self-reflect, and forgive, we set an example and all we can do is hope others see the positive changes. In return, your resilience will radiate onto others and hopefully, it can inspire others to do the same. Offering forgiveness after hurt is heroic, takes strength, and gives us our power back. Forgiveness should be a journey, and offering ourselves grace while doing so, that’s the destination.

By Kayla Myers, Family Peer Supporter

March 11, 2024

I had a revelation recently and am still unsure how to correct this coping mechanism I acquired on my journey through life. I guess at this point acknowledging and identifying this within myself is currently the stage I am in. So, I thought this would be a good way to reflect through writing and see if any more revelations transpire my growth. “Carpe Diem” is a Latin term meaning “Seize the day”. This can inspire the idea of living in the moment or for today, so we aren’t wasting what little time we have on this earth worrying about what has already happened or what is to come.

I was recently re-exposed to the idea of perfectionism. Identifying as someone who struggled with perfectionism didn’t ring true for me when I heard this idea brought up long ago. To me perfectionism meant you kept your spaces tidy, and your hair and makeup were always done, you were an overachiever, and things had to be perfect in your mind until you could be proud of yourself or the work you accomplished. I do not need things to be perfect to live a life that feels good to me. But when we dove into the layers of perfectionism, something hit me like a ton of bricks. I realized that I had this invisible report card inside of me where I was being graded and I was the one grading myself. I have zero idea of what I am being graded on or my expectations for myself, but it's there. How can I live up to this potential of a bogus scoring system that I allowed to control my self-worth and not offer myself grace when I don’t succeed? I feel like I owe myself an apology for setting such unfair terms to measure my success and when I fail, my worth always crumbles in my hands.

I have always been a kind soul. The one that roots for the underdog and wants to believe that we are all good underneath the layers of our lives and journeys that either left us better or battered. We are all trying to do the best job we know how to do with the tools we have in our toolkits. I offer grace and understanding to everyone around me and keep in mind that I have zero idea about the battles they are fighting every day. All these things come so naturally to me, but I have a hard time offering these same ideas to myself. I am hard on myself. I am my own worst enemy sometimes. Trying to live up to an unrealistic inhuman standard I set for myself long ago. Hey, I should start now, I am proud of myself for being able to identify the pattern I am in and give it life by acknowledging it's there and breathing into it to see what I need so I can sink deeper into my authentic self. I am also proud of myself because I recognize it's time to start offering myself the same grace and compassion that I offer others and to acknowledge I am a human and doing my best every day.

Carpe Diem- I pledge to myself to keep this mantra in the forefront of my mind. When I feel uneasy about what is happening around me, in my body, or mind, I am going to remind myself that the only thing I am in control of is my response to what is uncomfortable. I will let my invisible report card take a rest so I am not keeping track of all my faults, and I will offer myself the grace to learn and do differently next time. I am a perfectly capable but flawed human being. My expectation of me is to live a life that feels good, not one that looks perfect to everyone else.

by Kayla Myers, Family Peer Supporter

February 13, 2024

In this article, I am going to give you a different shift in mindset with the upcoming “Prayers for Autism” awareness day. While I am sure the intention with this day was all in good nature, I have some thoughts…….

When my child was diagnosed officially with Autism, we had already been on such a long journey to find answers. My little boy had hit all his milestones, was talking, and was a very different child from what he is now. Months after his second birthday, he quickly regressed. This meant all the words he had learned were gone, he wasn’t my calm and content child anymore, and I had to grieve a child that I still had breathing and walking around in front of me. He just changed, and I will not downplay how hard that was as a mom. Now knowing what a family peer supporter is, I was lucky to stumble across a few women who were helping with services and therapy for him, but they too had children with complex care needs. They helped me so much with my perspective on his diagnosis and helped me focus on the lesson in this drastic life change.

Whoever you believe in or if you don’t believe at all, I feel like that is every individual’s right and they should be able to believe in that without judgment from others. What I will say though, is I don’t love hearing “prayers” to diminish another person's experiences or to disregard people’s abilities as human beings. My son is a very capable human being who is affected by his Autism every day, but he doesn’t need to be prayed for because he is lacking in any way. He is smart, loving, kind, wild, and mysterious. He makes me proud because he is loud and proud of who he is and that is more than most can say for themselves.

My goal with this article is to bring awareness to how things are said and presented. If you believe in God and prayer is how you care for others, that is amazing. If you believe in the creator or spirit, that is beautiful. Caring for others through our beliefs is what makes us all special and unique in this thing we call life. I just hate to see it used in a hurtful way. Bryce doesn’t need to be prayed for because he is lacking or incomplete. He was created and designed to be just what he is. And this should be celebrated. This should be applauded. So, I believe if prayers are being sent to heaven for Bryce they should sound like, “I pray that Bryce remembers how amazing his brain works and remembers to continue to shine as bright as he wants to too.”

by Kayla Myers, Family Peer Supporter

December 19, 2023

Spirituality has been my compass while I learned how to get back into the driver’s seat of my own life. I have always recognized in myself that I am a deep thinker and feeler, but it felt like a curse for a long time. I learned to dim my light within, not listen to my sense of self, and this caused me to sway away from my core values and beliefs. Through hardships, I found myself extremely distanced from my mind body, and soul.

Unfortunately, drugs took control of my dad’s life when I was a young girl, leaving my mom to raise two kids on her own. As a kid and into my early adolescents, I knew my dad not being involved in my life hurt me, but I was still hopeful for his recovery and had deep love for him even though he didn’t have that for himself. I know now, I stuffed that pain so far inside of me because I couldn’t feel or deal quite yet. I was only focused on what my mom, brother, and dad must been feeling or going through. All things must come to the light though and it eventually caught up with me when I became a mom myself. It hit me like a wrecking ball and then I was angry with him, for me. How could he let drugs become more important than the two beings he created and brought into this world? It was hurt, confused, angry, and at a loss.

My dad’s mom and dad have now passed on. They did the best job they knew how. with staying connected to my brother and I while we were growing up. Now that I am a mom myself, I now have insight on how painful that must have been to watch their son who was so full of life and love, just to watch drugs take all of that from him. Now I have grace in my heart for them and what that must have felt like. I have also reconnected with my dad in the past year, which I never thought would have happened. Now here is where divine timing and spirituality have become so loud in my life and now, I can’t stop trusting in it and myself.

When I found myself in a massive life change over three years ago, my mom said to me, “Your grandma Donna would be so proud of you and wouldn’t want you to take crap from anyone.” Those words stuck with me and almost became a force field surrounding me while I honestly felt like my strength was going to crumble out from under me at any point. A couple days later I saw a video and it was a tarot card reading that said, “A grandmother/mom/aunt is coming through and she has been watching over you. She is so proud of you and wants to remind you to keep standing in your strength. She wants to remind you to not take crap from anyone. She will always be watching over you but your strength with get you through this. You’ll know it’s her because she will come to you in the form of a butterfly.” My jaw about hit the ground and I got chills all over my body. I was at a kid’s birthday party a week later and it was about 102 degrees out. I was keeping an eye on my son, and I felt really disconnected from the world around me. Suddenly something hit my nose and caught my attention. It was a butterfly. It was almost like it got my attention on purpose and kept flying around me. Once again, I got chills and knew it was for me because one too many coincidences had now happened. After that, on my hardest days, I always see butterflies especially when I am disconnected from my present self. Whether it’s in real life or a picture, she always comes to remind me to keep going.

Fast forward, reconnecting with my dad has been very healing and came at a time where I was truly able to let him back in because I knew I trusted in myself again and that I would know how to navigate the journey. We have had very meaningful and deep conversations about life, and it has felt like I got a piece of myself back, that was lost for a very long time. This summer when we were floating on the river, I kept seeing an eagle. Not when I was looking for it, but it would just randomly be sitting in different places on the river and somehow catch my attention. After a couple times of seeing him/her, I was like “Ok spirit guides, what are you trying to tell me.” My dad has a beautiful soul, he’s hilarious, and full of life. Through my early conversations with him, he would say little positive lines to me, make me belly laugh, or he would tell me what his parents would tell him or say. One day he said, “Well your grandpa would always tell me, I am already insecure enough, so I’m not going to surround myself with people who make me feel more insecure about myself. I am an eagle; I am not going to let the seagulls bring me down.” This past summer, I told my dad about how I kept seeing the eagle on the river. He said your grandpa loved eagles and he told me the eagle not a seagull line again. That weekend we were floating on the river and for the first time all summer, I didn’t see the eagle. I got a call from my dad later that next week and he said, “Kayla, you are never going to believe what happened. I still have chills thinking about it.” I must preface this part that my dad is currently serving a long prison sentence due to his drug use. The prison is in the middle of nowhere, in the Nevada desert. He continues, “We finally got to go out in the yard, and I was walking the track. We never see animals out here. If anything, we see desert critters or seagulls. We were turning the corner and up on the light post was an eagle just sitting there staring at me. I have never seen anything like it out here and I stopped dead in my tracks, and I got so emotional. Thank you for sending him here to see me Kayla, I think he was reminding me that I have been acting like a seagull for far to long and its time to be an eagle.” The very next weekend not only was the eagle back, but he also had a companion with him. They were sitting in the same spot I spotted the first one.

Spirituality has given me the gift to trust in myself, the strength to be fully present, and subtle reminders that everything will work out just the way it is supposed too. I don’t need to have all the answers, all the time. It’s a practice of connecting within, to find the answers to guide me on the path that was designed for me. I can’t keep diming my own light, my diving time was calling, and now its time to trust in the process, and soar to new heights.

by Kayla Myers, Family Peer Supporter

October 31, 2023

My son is affected greatly with Sensory Processing Disorder. He is one of the ones where it is visual, and he seeks out sensory input constantly. The best way this was described to me was that he is constantly trying to detect where his body is in space. He has very repetitive movements like flapping his hands, vocal stimming, jumping, putting options in his mouth that aren’t for eating, random need to run, and many others. This term for most of this is called stimming. But they are things that regulate his body and make his brain feel “good”. A lot of the time, people with Autism/Sensory Processing Disorder feel the need to tone down their stimming in public or around neurotypicals. It is important to encourage them to have the space to stim so they can be free in their own skin. For someone who is unable to communicate with words, some of my sons stimming can be quite loud (makes my sensory profile a little over stimulated at times LOL). The senses we experience every day can be very overwhelming to someone with SPD. Food can make them physically sick, smells can give them a headache, pain can be nonexistent, and these are just a few examples. I thought it was important to shed some light on what this can look like and how it can feel living with this disorder. It is not a walk in the park and must be incredibly difficult to navigate a world that your body/brain is trying to catch up with.