Andi Daniel | Montana's Peer Network https://mtpeernetwork.org Tue, 19 Aug 2025 18:29:16 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.2 https://i0.wp.com/mtpeernetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/cropped-512-round-logo.jpg?fit=32%2C32&ssl=1 Andi Daniel | Montana's Peer Network https://mtpeernetwork.org 32 32 152317302 Dignity Over Detention https://mtpeernetwork.org/081925_ad/ https://mtpeernetwork.org/081925_ad/#respond Tue, 19 Aug 2025 18:23:02 +0000 https://mtpeernetwork.org/?p=16921

by Andi Daniel, Technology Coordinator

August 19, 2025

President Trump’s “Ending Crime and Disorder on American’s Streets” executive order from July 24, 2025 is chilling. Under the guise of “law and order” this administration seems to be targeting the most vulnerable populations. This time it is unhoused people but the implications for a wider group of people are obvious. Do we have an issue with people being unable to find and keep adequate housing in this country? Yes, we cannot deny that is a rising problem. There is a misconception that being unhoused is due to laziness, weakness, or a moral failing when it is actually a lack of adequate employment and extremely limited access to affordable housing that are the main causes of homelessness. The Supreme Court’s Grants Pass ruling opened the door to more criminalization by local authorities. Criminalizing homelessness and closing housing programs does not eliminate the issues that cause homelessness in the first place. We can look at least one community in our own state whose elected officials have blamed services for unhoused people as attracting unhoused people to the community and if those services were eliminated, that problem would go away. They even went as far as removing bus stops and requiring people to access public transit through a phone app and credit card.

This executive order focuses strongly on substance use and mental illness as the causes of homelessness. It states that “Nearly two-thirds of homeless individuals report having regularly used hard drugs like methamphetamines, cocaine, or opioids in their lifetimes” with no reference to where this number came from. While this is a staggering number, it misrepresents the truth of the situation. Having used substances in a lifetime does not mean that those people are currently using substances. In fact, a recent study found that 37% of unhoused people reported using substances three or more times a week in the six months prior to the study-half of what the executive order claims. Likewise, mental health conditions can be a contributing factor to becoming or staying unhoused.  According to the National Coalition for the Homeless, behavioral health conditions are rarely the reason that people become unhoused in the first place.  Most people cannot financially survive a crisis such as an illness or injury. Issues compound. An injury requires recovery away from work which leads to decreased wages while off work and increased bills making it more difficult to pay rent. Being evicted for inability to pay rent, even if due to something outside the person’s control, makes it more difficult to find a new place because the person now has a delinquency on their rental history. These life stressors can lead to mental health issues which can lead to substance use, especially if mental health services aren’t readily available. This spiral can be fast. We have also seen the closing of some major employees such as Seeley Lake sawmill in Missoula displacing hundreds of employees. Interestingly, two of the reasons cited for the closure were lack of housing and the high cost of living in Western Montana.

Homelessness is rarely just about substance use or mental health but this executive order prioritizes civil commitment and is vague on what would constitute a reason for this civil commitment. Civil commitment may be necessary when someone is a danger to themselves or others. The order states that civil commitment could be used for people who have a mental illness and “cannot care for themselves in appropriate facilities for appropriate periods of time” with no definition of what mental illness, appropriate facilities, or appropriate periods of time actually mean.  Does being unhoused on its own mean that someone cannot care for themselves? Which mental illnesses qualify people for this civil commitment? How long would be appropriate for someone to be unhoused before they are civilly committed? Does couch surfing count as homeless? The order directs state and local governments to implement “maximally flexible civil commitment, institutional treatment, and ‘step-down’ treatment.” There is no flexibility in Montana for civil commitment. There simply aren’t enough beds available at Montana State Hospital, Montana Chemical Dependency Center, or community hospitals to meet the current needs. MSH lost federal funding in 2022 and that has not been restored. Mental health facilities struggle to maintain adequate staffing levels. Committing more people will only make this problem worse. Where do they go when there are no psychiatric or substance use treatment beds available? Likely jail or prison under the definition of “other appropriate facilities.”

The fact is, we have been here before. It was quite common for people with mental health disorders, intellectual disabilities, or even those considered odd in some way to be committed to asylums or hospitals, often with little to no treatment. People would remain in these facilities for extended periods of time, perhaps their entire lives. The system we have now is not even adequate, but the previous system was horrific for many people. I have seen video of people housed in the Boulder, MT facility in the 1970s. It was inhumane. “Patients” lined the hallways in hospital gowns yelling or crying, staff were rarely present, and there was no therapy to be found. These images were captured by a journalist with permission to be at the facility, so it isn’t hard to imagine that the conditions were actually much worse than what was shown. The concept of deinstitutionalization was a great goal and began during JFK’s administration but was not fully implemented until the Reagan administration. The issue was, and is, that the proper infrastructure was not in place to accommodate community support for those leaving the institutions. Even now it is difficult to create a discharge plan when people leave MSH because there are not adequate services available in their communities. Mass institutionalization is not the answer to this problem, without proper support, it becomes a revolving door. People enter an institution, are released at some point, begin experiencing symptoms again, have no support in their communities, return to the institution, and the cycle continues.

The order also removes any funding for harm reduction or safe consumption sites because they “Facilitate illegal drug use.” It even directs the Attorney General to file civil or criminal charges to housing assistance programs that provide these environments or even distribute “drug paraphernalia” with no definition of what those items are. Does Narcan count as paraphernalia?  There is significant evidence that these options save lives for those struggling with substance use issues. The order also calls for an end to “housing first” programs that focus on finding housing before addressing underlying issues. The claim is that providing unhoused people with housing deprioritizes accountability again, framing homelessness as a failing by the person experiencing homelessness. The ultimate goal is to move people into private housing and support networks. That word private is concerning. The order wants individuals “off the streets” but also out of public programs.  How do people who are leaving the state hospital after being civilly committed for being homeless have the resources to access private housing and services.

Finally, perhaps the most destructive part of this order is that it requires housing programs to collect “health-related” information and share that data with law enforcement and requires compliance to a treatment program in order to receive housing services. Forcing compliance with specific treatment programs is blatantly contradictory to the concept of recovery. Recovery cannot be coerced; it must be chosen. Effective recovery pathways are individualized and focused on strengths. Forcing people into specific treatment systems with the caveat that they will lose their housing if they don’t comply is ineffective at best and extremely harmful or deadly at worst. Who is paying for these treatment services? If someone misses an outpatient appointment, are they evicted from their housing immediately and unable to access any services such as shelters or warming centers? Where do they go if they are evicted and can’t get any additional services? Will they be detained by unidentified masked officers and incarcerated? It starts with housing programs, but does it expand to food programs or other services? Will people be barred from food banks, SNAP benefits, and community health centers for non-compliance?

The Secretary of Health and Human Services has already stated that he wants to create a database of people with autism which was rightfully met with backlash and now the administration is requiring people to be part of a similar database if they need housing assistance. Nothing good ever comes from government putting marginalized people on a list. I didn’t agree with the Obama administration when they discussed adding mental health information to the background check system to purchase firearms. There are definitely instances where people with mental illness should not have access to weapons-the tragedy at the Owl Bar in Anaconda is a recent example. However, in order to have people flagged in the background check system, a list of people with mental illness would have to be created. What gets someone on that list? How do they get off that list? Do other agencies have access to that list?

We have now seen federal law enforcement move into Washington, DC under the excuse of stopping crime even though statistics show that violent crime in DC is the lowest it has been in 30 years. The President posted on his own social media platform “The Homeless have to move out, IMMEDIATELY. We will give you places to stay, but FAR from the Capital.” He went on to state that criminals didn’t need to move out because they will be put in jail. He provided no details about where the unhoused people would be transported to or what type of housing they would be given. This seems to contradict the Executive Order unless the plan is to force all of those in DC into treatment programs. If unhoused people do not leave DC, does that make them criminals and justify incarcerating them?

This is how things started in Germany in the 1930s. There is a misconception that Hitler and the SS started with death camps for Jewish people. The reality is that they started in a much quieter way moving people into specific neighborhoods who were “undesirable” in some way.  The “asocials” included people with substance use issues, mental illness and intellectual disabilities, homeless people and beggars, nonconformists, LGBTQIA+ people, and pacifists. They were moved to camps later. Not all camps were labeled as extermination camps-some were labor camps or medical camps, but they almost always included some type of mass murder even if it was chalked up to malnutrition or illness.

The “Ending Crime and Disorder on American’s Streets” executive order is not about solving homelessness—it is about erasing unhoused people from public view and punishing poverty. Instead of addressing the root causes of homelessness—lack of affordable housing, economic instability, and underfunded community supports—this policy seeks to bring back failed policies of mass institutionalization, criminalization, and forced compliance. History has already shown us where these approaches lead: human suffering, civil rights violations, and systemic abuse. Every person deserves safe housing, access to healthcare, and the freedom to recover in ways that honor their dignity. Real solutions require investment in housing, healthcare, employment opportunities, and voluntary recovery supports—not coercion, surveillance, or incarceration. We cannot allow history to repeat itself. If we allow fear and discrimination to drive policy, we risk repeating the darkest chapters of the world’s past. If, instead, we center dignity, equity, and compassion, we can build a future where housing and safety are human rights, not privileges granted only to those who comply. This executive order is not a solution—it is a warning. If we stay silent, we normalize cruelty. If we speak up, organize, and act, we can build communities that protect—not punish—the most vulnerable among us.

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Intersectionality https://mtpeernetwork.org/060325_ad/ https://mtpeernetwork.org/060325_ad/#respond Tue, 03 Jun 2025 18:23:33 +0000 https://mtpeernetwork.org/?p=16767

by Andi Daniel, Technology Coordinator

June 3, 2025

Millions of people are affected by mental health issues and LGBTQIA+ youth and adults are especially affected. For example, the CDC reports that nearly 48% of LGBTQIA+ youth seriously considered suicide in the past year as compared to their non LGBTQIA+ counterparts. 39% of LGBTQIA+ adults rate their mental health as "fair" or "poor" while 16% of non LGBTQIA+ adult report the same. These disparities are often due to lack of support, discrimination, social rejection, and difficulty accessing care. Being LGBTQIA+ is not the risk factor in itself, the discrimination these people experience is.

Mental health care is often difficult to find and afford. About 20% of non LGBTQIA+ people were unable to access the mental health care they needed compared to 46% of LGBTQIA+ people. Lack of access to mental health care can lead to higher suicide rates and increases in disability rates. In Montana, it can be even more difficult to get timely, affordable, and easily accessible mental health care. As with all health care in rural and frontier  areas, travel to a provider can be impossible and not all providers offer telehealth services. It may also be harder to find mental health providers who are well versed in LGBTQIA+ issues.

Discrimination plays a role in poor mental health as well as avoidance of physical and mental health providers. LGBTQIA+ often face judgment, misgendering, and invalidation in health care settings. People who feel their health or mental health care providers are not supportive may avoid care. Fear of discrimination can make it difficult to find a provider. Scarcity of resources and mental health support can increase the chances of someone developing a substance use disorder as a way to cope with an unsupportive environment. LGBTQIA+ adults are twice as likely to have substance use disorders than their heterosexual, cisgender peers.

What can be done about these difficulties? Studies show that having support is vital. Clear nondiscrimination policies that are consistently followed promote empowering environments. This may include staff training, availability of gender neutral bathrooms, and representative signage. Mental and physical health providers should seek out training on LGBTQIA+ issues. It is also important to provide services on sliding scales or low cost specifically for LGBTQIA+ youth. Youth may not have access to insurance if they no longer have relationships with their families.

Youth spend the bulk of their waking time at school and schools need to be places they can feel safe. Training educators to identify mental distress, family rejection, and bullying may provide them with the tools they need to intervene and limit the negative effects. Maintaining good working relationships with school counselors and mental health professionals in the community makes it easier to refer struggling youth to the right resources.

As peers in the behavioral health world, we can be a model for developing peer support for LGBTQIA+ people with behavioral health issues. Non LGBTQIA+ can support LGBTQIA+ in their behavior health journeys but helping people find the supports that most align with their identities adds another layer of support.

This may be a very difficult time for people in the LGBTQIA+ community. Changes in government policy affects the types of funding available to support people, specifically in marginalized groups. These policy changes can also embolden some to discriminate against LGBTQIA+ people. It is vital for compassionate people and organizations to be visible and available to those in need of support.

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Embracing Every Form of Resiliency https://mtpeernetwork.org/052025_km/ https://mtpeernetwork.org/052025_km/#respond Tue, 20 May 2025 16:55:44 +0000 https://mtpeernetwork.org/?p=16748

by Kayla Myers, Peer Support Coordinator

May 20, 2025

May is Mental Health Awareness Month, and for me, as someone who walks this path not only for myself but alongside others as a peer and family peer supporter, it’s more than just a calendar observance. It’s a heartfelt invitation. It’s a chance to shine a light on mental well-being, reduce stigma, and encourage real, meaningful conversations about what it means to live with, and rise through, mental health challenges.

But beyond awareness, this month is also a celebration of something that’s often overlooked in clinical discussions: resilience. Real-life, hard-earned, deeply human resilience. I see it every day. In my own life, in the families I support, and in the courageous individuals I walk beside. In a world that constantly demands more, the ability to care for ourselves and each other, to bounce back, to try again, that’s nothing short of heroic in my eyes.

Too often, mental health conversations focus only on what’s “wrong” and the diagnoses, the symptoms, the crises. And yes, those realities matter. Many of us live with anxiety, depression, trauma, burnout, and more. But what also deserves our attention are the tools, the healing practices, and the communities of support that help us grow and thrive. Mental Health Awareness Month is our opportunity to shift the narrative and to move beyond the struggle and toward hope, healing, and wholeness. Let’s take this time to honor not only the reality of mental health challenges but also the journey of recovery and transformation. Because healing isn’t just possible, it’s happening, every day, in quiet and courageous ways.

As a peer supporter, I’ve learned that wellness doesn’t have to look perfect, and it certainly isn’t linear. It’s not about having it all together. It’s about balance, intention, and self-compassion. It’s about figuring out what works for you, not what someone else says should work. Wellness might be a daily walk, journaling your thoughts, practicing mindfulness, or reaching out to a friend when things feel heavy. It might be therapy, medication, spiritual practice, or learning to say “no” and create boundaries. For some of us, it’s learning to rest without guilt. For others, it’s reconnecting with community or family in new and healthier ways. The beauty of wellness is that it’s personal. And the power in that? It gives us autonomy. It reminds us that even on our hardest days, there are small, meaningful steps we can take to support ourselves and others.

When I think about resilience, I don’t think about superhuman strength. I think about showing up. I think about people who’ve faced deep pain and still offer kindness. I think about parents who advocate fiercely for their children while carrying their own emotional load. I think about peers who choose recovery every single day, even when it’s hard.

Resilience is in the tiny victories: Getting out of bed. Making a phone call. Attending a support group. Letting yourself cry. Laughing again. Saying, “I need help.” Every single one of those moments counts. And if you’re reading this and wondering if you’re resilient, you are. If you’ve made it through something you thought you couldn’t, if you’ve chosen to heal, if you’ve dared to hope, you’re already embodying the kind of strength that changes lives.

Mental Health Awareness Month is a call to action, yes, but it’s also a celebration of how far we’ve come. As individuals. As families. As communities. We still have work to do, but every time we speak up, share our story, or reach out to support someone else, we’re making change. Real change.

Whether you’re deep in your healing, just beginning, supporting a loved one, or simply becoming more aware, you’re part of this movement. Your voice, your story, your presence, it matters. Let’s continue building spaces where people feel safe to speak openly, where families are supported, and where no one feels like they have to walk this path alone. Together, we’re creating a future where mental health is not just acknowledged, but truly valued and celebrated.

Happy Mental Health Awareness Month. May this month be filled with compassion, connection, and the unwavering belief that no matter what we face—there is always hope, always healing, and always a way forward.

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The Power of Kindness https://mtpeernetwork.org/021125_ai/ https://mtpeernetwork.org/021125_ai/#respond Tue, 11 Feb 2025 17:43:04 +0000 https://mtpeernetwork.org/?p=16620

by Open AI ChatGPT, Edited by Andi Daniel

January 11, 2025

Random Acts of Kindness Day February 17

Acts of kindness are often seen as simple gestures, yet their impact on mental health can be profound. Whether it’s offering a smile to a stranger, helping a coworker, or volunteering for a cause, kindness can create a ripple effect that benefits both the giver and the recipient. Research has consistently shown that engaging in acts of kindness boosts mental well-being, reducing stress, increasing happiness, and fostering a sense of belonging.

The Science Behind Kindness and Mental Health

Kindness is not just a moral virtue—it has biological and psychological benefits. When people engage in acts of kindness, their brains release chemicals such as oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine. These neurotransmitters play a crucial role in mood regulation and emotional well-being.

  • Oxytocin, often referred to as the "love hormone," is associated with feelings of bonding, trust, and social connection. It helps lower blood pressure, reduces stress, and fosters emotional resilience.
  • Serotonin, known as the "happiness chemical," enhances mood and contributes to overall mental stability. It is often targeted by antidepressant medications to treat depression and anxiety.
  • Dopamine, the brain’s reward chemical, gives a sense of pleasure and motivation, reinforcing positive behaviors.

Engaging in kindness activates the brain’s reward system that improves emotional well-being. The more people practice kindness, the stronger these neurological pathways become, making kindness a habit that contributes to lasting mental health benefits.

Kindness Reduces Stress and Anxiety

Modern life is often stressful, filled with pressures from work, relationships, and daily responsibilities. Acts of kindness have been shown to counteract the negative effects of stress by promoting relaxation and reducing cortisol levels (the stress hormone).

A study conducted by the University of British Columbia found that individuals who performed acts of kindness experienced significant reductions in social anxiety. Participants reported feeling more comfortable in social situations, less self-conscious, and more confident in their interactions. The reason behind this is simple—kindness shifts focus away from internal worries and redirects it toward positive, external interactions.

Helping others also creates a sense of purpose, which counteracts feelings of stress and anxiety. People who volunteer or engage in compassionate acts often report a decrease in worry and an increase in emotional resilience.

Kindness and Depression: A Natural Antidote

Depression often brings feelings of isolation, low self-worth, and a lack of motivation. Acts of kindness can act as a natural antidote by fostering social connections, increasing self-esteem, and giving individuals a sense of meaning.

Studies have shown that people suffering from depression who engage in prosocial behaviors—such as helping a friend, donating to charity, or performing small gestures of kindness—experience improvements in mood and overall outlook on life. The act of giving creates a sense of accomplishment, counteracting the helplessness that often accompanies depression.

One notable study published in the Journal of Social Psychology found that people who committed five acts of kindness per day for six weeks reported greater levels of happiness compared to those who did not. The researchers suggested that acts of kindness helped participants break the cycle of negative thinking that often contributes to depression.

Kindness Strengthens Social Bonds and Reduces Loneliness

Loneliness is a major risk factor for mental health conditions, including depression, anxiety, and even cognitive decline. Human beings are wired for social connection, and kindness is a powerful tool for fostering relationships and strengthening community ties. When people engage in acts of kindness, they naturally build trust and connection with others. Whether it’s helping a neighbor, complimenting a colleague, or simply expressing gratitude, these actions strengthen interpersonal relationships and create a support system that enhances mental health.

The Ripple Effect of Kindness

One of the most powerful aspects of kindness is its ability to create a ripple effect. A single act of kindness can inspire others to pay it forward, spreading positivity and well-being throughout a community. This phenomenon, known as "upstream reciprocity," demonstrates how kindness can multiply and benefit an entire society.

For example, if a person witnesses an act of kindness—such as a stranger helping someone in need—they are more likely to engage in a kind act themselves. This leads to a chain reaction of positive interactions that enhance collective mental health and promote a culture of empathy and support.

In workplaces, communities, and schools, kindness initiatives have been shown to improve morale, increase cooperation, and reduce instances of bullying or hostility. Schools that implement kindness programs report lower rates of student anxiety and depression, as well as improved academic performance and social relationships.

Kindness and Self-Esteem

Another key way kindness affects mental health is by boosting self-esteem. When people engage in acts of kindness, they experience a sense of accomplishment and self-worth. Helping others reminds individuals that they have value and can make a difference in the world. For those struggling with self-doubt or low confidence, kindness can serve as a powerful tool for self-discovery and personal growth. When people focus on the well-being of others, they shift away from negative self-talk and instead embrace a more positive and compassionate view of themselves.

Simple Ways to Practice Kindness Daily

Incorporating kindness into daily life does not require grand gestures—small, simple acts can have a profound impact on mental health. Here are some ways to practice kindness every day:

  • Give genuine compliments – A kind word can brighten someone’s day.
  • Listen actively – Sometimes, people just need to be heard.
  • Offer help – Whether it’s assisting a coworker or holding the door for someone, small gestures matter.
  • Express gratitude – Saying "thank you" fosters positivity and appreciation.
  • Volunteer – Helping in the community strengthens social bonds and boosts mood.
  • Check in on loved ones – A simple text or call can make a big difference.
  • Practice self-kindness – Treat yourself with the same compassion you offer others.

Acts of kindness have a profound impact on mental health, benefiting both the giver and the recipient. Through the release of feel-good hormones, kindness reduces stress, combats depression, and fosters emotional resilience. It strengthens social bonds, decreases loneliness, and boosts self-esteem. Furthermore, kindness creates a ripple effect that spreads positivity throughout communities, making the world a better place.

Incorporating kindness into daily life does not require great effort—small, intentional acts can transform mental well-being. Whether through a kind word, a helping hand, or a simple smile, kindness has the power to heal, uplift, and bring joy. By choosing kindness, individuals not only improve their own mental health but also contribute to a more compassionate and connected world.

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The Benefits of Mentoring and Job Shadowing https://mtpeernetwork.org/012825_ai/ https://mtpeernetwork.org/012825_ai/#respond Tue, 28 Jan 2025 19:14:18 +0000 https://mtpeernetwork.org/?p=16592

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January 28, 2025

Peer support programs play a crucial role in mental health, addiction recovery, and various support communities. New peer supporters often face challenges as they transition into their roles, making mentorship and job shadowing invaluable resources. A strong mentoring and shadowing system enhances their confidence, competence, and overall effectiveness. Below, we explore the key benefits of mentoring and job shadowing for new peer supporters, highlighting how these relationships foster personal growth, professional development, and improved support for those in need.

New peer supporters may struggle to understand their roles and responsibilities fully. Mentoring and job shadowing provide them with a structured way to learn from experienced supporters who can clarify expectations, share best practices, and demonstrate effective support techniques. Observing seasoned professionals in action helps newcomers gain confidence and avoid common pitfalls. A mentorship and job shadowing system creates a continuous cycle of learning within peer support programs. Mentees often become mentors themselves, passing on the knowledge and skills they have gained. This ongoing culture of mentorship strengthens the program and ensures that new peer supporters receive the guidance they need.

Peer support requires active listening, empathy, and clear communication. A mentor can model these skills, provide constructive feedback, and help new supporters refine their approach. Through role-playing exercises, reflective discussions, and real-life case studies, mentees can improve their ability to connect with peers effectively. Job shadowing further reinforces these skills by allowing new supporters to witness effective communication in real-world settings.

Peer support can be emotionally taxing, leading to burnout if not managed properly. Mentors teach new supporters the importance of self-care, boundary-setting, and seeking support when needed. Job shadowing helps new supporters observe how experienced peers maintain resilience and self-care while providing effective support. By prioritizing their well-being, mentees can provide sustainable and effective peer support over the long term. A mentor serves as a trusted confidant who understands the emotional highs and lows of the role. Having someone to turn to for reassurance, encouragement, and coping strategies helps new supporters maintain their well-being and resilience. Job shadowing also offers a gradual introduction to the emotional realities of peer support, helping newcomers develop coping mechanisms early on. 

Experienced mentors have accumulated wisdom from their years of service. They can share real-world experiences, effective problem-solving strategies, and insights into common challenges. This knowledge transfer accelerates a new supporter’s ability to respond appropriately to different situations and build meaningful relationships with those they support. Job shadowing complements this by allowing mentees to see firsthand how mentors apply best practices in different scenarios.

Starting as a peer supporter can be intimidating. A mentor provides reassurance and constructive feedback, helping mentees feel more prepared. Job shadowing allows new supporters to observe successful interactions before they engage on their own, making them more comfortable and reducing anxiety. Knowing they have a safety net in their mentor and the experience of shadowing real interactions boosts their confidence significantly.

Mentoring relationships foster self-awareness and self-improvement. By engaging in reflective discussions, new peer supporters can identify their strengths and areas for development. Job shadowing further enhances this process by providing real-life examples that mentees can analyze and learn from. This continuous learning process encourages personal growth and helps them refine their approach to peer support over time.

No two peer support cases are identical, and new supporters will inevitably face complex situations. Mentors help them develop critical thinking skills by discussing various scenarios and encouraging them to consider different perspectives and solutions. Job shadowing provides additional context, showing mentees how experienced supporters navigate challenges in real time, thus preparing them to handle similar situations with confidence. Peer supporters must navigate ethical dilemmas and maintain professional boundaries. Mentors provide guidance on these issues, ensuring that new supporters adhere to ethical standards, respect confidentiality, and avoid burnout. Job shadowing reinforces ethical considerations by allowing mentees to witness how experienced supporters handle sensitive situations professionally.

Mentorship and job shadowing can help new peer supporters understand and appreciate diverse perspectives, experiences, and backgrounds. This exposure promotes cultural competence, inclusivity, and sensitivity when working with individuals from various communities. By fostering awareness and empathy, mentors help mentees become more effective and respectful in their interactions.

Mentorship and job shadowing foster strong relationships within peer support networks. Mentees who receive guidance from experienced supporters are more likely to stay engaged and connected to the community. This sense of belonging reduces feelings of isolation and promotes a collaborative, team-oriented environment. New peer supporters who feel supported and valued are more likely to stay committed to their roles. Mentorship and job shadowing reduce early attrition rates by helping newcomers navigate challenges and build confidence in their abilities. Increased retention ensures that programs have a stable, experienced workforce capable of providing high-quality support.

Formal training programs provide foundational knowledge, but real-world experience is invaluable. Mentors bridge the gap between theory and practice, offering insights that textbooks and workshops may not cover. Job shadowing reinforces this by allowing new supporters to see these insights applied in practice. Continuous learning through mentorship and job shadowing ensures that new peer supporters remain adaptable and well-prepared for the evolving needs of their communities.

Mentoring and job shadowing are powerful tools for strengthening the skills, confidence, and resilience of new peer supporters. By providing guidance, emotional support, and professional development opportunities, mentors play a crucial role in ensuring the success of their mentees. These relationships not only benefit individual.

If you are interested in being a mentor or having new peer supporters shadow you, please reach out to Jim. We have had requests from new peer supporters for these opportunities.

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Goodbye Daylight Savings Time https://mtpeernetwork.org/102224_ad/ https://mtpeernetwork.org/102224_ad/#respond Tue, 22 Oct 2024 20:52:03 +0000 https://mtpeernetwork.org/?p=15896

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October 22, 2024

The end of Daylight Saving Time (DST) brings noticeable changes in the environment that can have significant effects on mental health. This seasonal shift, especially the transition to earlier sunsets, can disrupt circadian rhythms, impact mood, and contribute to disorders like seasonal affective disorder (SAD).

Impact on Circadian Rhythms and Sleep

One of the primary mental health concerns tied to the end of DST is the disruption of the body's circadian rhythms. Our internal clock, or circadian rhythm, is sensitive to light exposure, and when the amount of daylight decreases with earlier sunsets, it can cause a misalignment between our biological clock and the day-night cycle. This misalignment can lead to difficulties in falling asleep, waking up, and maintaining healthy sleep patterns, all of which are crucial for mental well-being.

Sleep disruptions can aggravate conditions like anxiety and depression. Studies have shown that when individuals lose sleep or have poor-quality sleep, their cognitive functioning and emotional regulation suffer, potentially leading to increased irritability, sadness, and stress. For individuals already managing mental health conditions, the end of DST can act as an additional stressor. The disruption to daily routines, along with the physical impact of shorter daylight hours, may intensify feelings of isolation, anxiety, and depression. As SAMHSA’s National Guidelines for Behavioral Health Crisis Care emphasize, effective crisis care services, including timely access to counseling and support, are crucial in preventing mental health crises, especially during seasonal transitions.

The change in time can affect social behaviors and habits. With less daylight in the evening, people may engage in fewer outdoor activities, which can lead to feelings of social isolation. According to SAMHSA, strong social connections are essential for maintaining mental health, and reduced opportunities for socializing during the darker months can increase the risk of depression and anxiety.

Increased Risk of Depression and Seasonal Affective Disorder

As the days shorten and people are exposed to less natural sunlight, there is a marked increase in depressive symptoms for many. Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), which is a type of depression that occurs at specific times of the year—usually in the winter months—is triggered by reduced daylight. SAD symptoms include low energy, difficulty concentrating, changes in appetite, and a general sense of despair. This disorder is closely linked to the reduced amount of daylight in the winter months, as the body produces less serotonin (a neurotransmitter associated with mood regulation) and more melatonin (a hormone that induces sleepiness), leading to lethargy and depression. Additionally, for many, the shorter days create feelings of isolation, as the opportunity for outdoor activities and social interactions diminish. The end of DST can also contribute to increased anxiety for some individuals, as they may feel pressured by the perception of having less time in the day to accomplish tasks.

Montana has one of the highest rates of (SAD) in the United States, ranking fifth overall. The state's northern latitude and long, dark winters contribute to the prevalence of this condition. In fact, as much as 5% of the population in areas like Montana could be affected by SAD, particularly during the short days of winter, when sunlight is scarce.

To mitigate the effects of the end of DST on mental health, SAMHSA recommends maintaining healthy habits such as sticking to a consistent sleep schedule, maximizing exposure to natural light during the day, and staying active, even in the colder, darker months. SAMHSA also provides resources like the Disaster Distress Helpline and other mental health support systems that can be especially valuable during this time of year. Below are some suggestions for combating SAD.

  • Light Therapy: One of the most effective treatments for SAD and other mood-related issues tied to lack of daylight is light therapy. This involves exposure to a light box that mimics natural sunlight, helping to regulate the body's circadian rhythm and boost serotonin levels.

  • Maintain a Routine: Having a regular sleep schedule and engaging in regular activities, even in reduced daylight, can help the body adjust more smoothly to the time change. Structuring the day can also provide a sense of control, reducing feelings of anxiety or frustration.

  • Stay Active: Exercise can play a significant role in improving mood and boosting energy levels. Even a short daily walk in the sunlight can help offset some of the effects of earlier sunsets and reduced light exposure. Nature walks can be particularly helpful, offering both physical benefits and a boost to mental well-being​

  • Social Connections: Maintaining social relationships is crucial during the darker months. Interacting with friends and family or joining support groups can combat the feelings of loneliness that are common during this time of year. Virtual or in-person meetups can offer emotional support and reduce isolation.

  • Seek Professional Help: For those who experience significant disruptions to their mental health following the end of DST, professional help is available. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is often effective in treating SAD and other mood disorders by helping individuals reframe negative thought patterns and develop healthier coping mechanisms. Additionally, medications like antidepressants may be recommended for some individuals.

While the end of Daylight Saving Time is often viewed as a minor inconvenience, its impact on mental health can be profound for many individuals. By understanding these effects and utilizing available resources, individuals can better manage the seasonal challenges that arise from this time change.

For more information, visit SAMHSA's website.

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Mental Health Recovery https://mtpeernetwork.org/091024_ad/ https://mtpeernetwork.org/091024_ad/#respond Tue, 10 Sep 2024 22:40:17 +0000 https://mtpeernetwork.org/?p=15726

by Andi Daniel, Technology Coordinator

September 10, 2024

How do we define recovery for mental health? Recovery is generally a well understood concept when it relates to physical illnesses or injuries or substance use. The timeline for recovery is definable as the date that an illness was diagnosed, an injury occurred, or a person stops  using substances (or reduces use in harm reduction). Some recovery programs, such as 12-step, acknowledge that time with a physical item given at specific intervals (30 days, 60 days, 1 year, etc.). Mental health recovery is a bit more nebulous.

I have struggled with mental health issues as long as I can remember but wasn't diagnosed or treated for them until I was in my 20s. Therapy wasn't common when I was growing up and there was significant stigma attached to seeing a mental health professional. Even adult resources were limited. Many people were prescribed "tranquilizers" or anti-psychotics, given electroconvulsive therapy (ECT), or institutionalized for long periods of time. Recovery could potentially be measured from the time someone started taking medication, received ECT, or was released from institutionalization although the concept of recovery wasn't really promoted at the time. We are often told that this is just the way our lives are going to be and that there is no "cure." While it is true that many mental illnesses are not cured, it is also true that we can live in recovery and manage our symptoms. This is like someone with a physical condition that will be lifelong but the symptoms and negative impacts can be mitigated. One of the most common analogies is that of diabetes. There is no cure but people can control the symptoms and do most things that people without diabetes can do. We can measure recovery in quantitative terms such as when a person maintains a healthy blood sugar level for a certain amount of time.

There is no blood sugar equivalent for mental health. There isn't really a quantitative description for when someone is in recovery in regard to mental health. Does recovery begin at diagnosis? That is difficult because there is no specific measure of mental illness. Diagnosis is based on observations or reported symptoms but there is no definitive test. Also, recovery looks different for everyone and the only way to determine progress is observation and reported symptoms again which may not be reliable. I remember being given the Beck Depression Inventory in college and thinking "how depressed do I want to appear today?" I was a psychology student and had learned about the test but even people without a background in psychology could choose to answer the questions in a way that could make them appear more or less impaired by their illness. If someone is concerned about being institutionalized, they are unlikely to choose answers that will make institutionalization more likely. If I complete the form in one way, it will look like I am recovering when I may not be whereas a person can't fake their blood sugar levels.

In simple terms, recovery can be defined as returning to a "normal" state. Normal looks different for everyone so that isn't a very good description of mental health recovery. How do I know what normal is if I have been struggling for a long time or have had symptoms for as long as I can remember?

I have decided to count my recovery from the time I last purposely injured myself. I could have chosen the day I left an inpatient setting or recovered physically from a suicide attempt but I really wasn't getting better after those events. I was still experiencing symptoms of my mental illness in a way that was disruptive to my life. I still had suicidal thoughts and injured myself. I can't pinpoint the exact day that the symptoms were less disruptive and I still have suicidal thoughts from time to time. I have a plan and I do things that help me control my symptoms. I am in recovery.

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Community and Peer Support for LGBTQIA+ People https://mtpeernetwork.org/061824_ad/ https://mtpeernetwork.org/061824_ad/#respond Tue, 18 Jun 2024 17:41:32 +0000 https://mtpeernetwork.org/?p=15418

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June 18, 2024

Community and peer support are important components of recovery for LGBTQ+ individuals dealing with mental health issues. They provide a lifeline of understanding, acceptance, and encouragement and help mitigate the adverse effects of discrimination, family issues, and internalized stigma while fostering resilience and promoting well-being. Several organizations, including the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), PFLAG, GLAAD, and the Human Rights Campaign, emphasize the importance of such support systems in improving the mental health outcomes of LGBTQ+ individuals.

The Role of Community Support

Community support refers to the collective strength and solidarity that members of the LGBTQ+ community offer one another. This support is crucial in creating safe spaces where individuals can express their identities without fear of judgment or discrimination. According to SAMHSA, LGBTQ+ people who feel connected to a supportive community experience lower levels of depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideation. Community support can come from various sources, including LGBTQ+ organizations, social groups, online forums, and local community centers.

Creating Safe Spaces

Safe spaces are environments where LGBTQ+ individuals feel secure and accepted. These spaces are essential for fostering a sense of belonging and providing a refuge from the hostility that LGBTQ+ people often face in broader society. GLAAD, an organization dedicated to promoting LGBTQ+ acceptance, underscores the importance of safe spaces in schools, workplaces, and communities. By promoting policies and practices that support LGBTQ+ inclusivity, GLAAD helps create environments where individuals can thrive.

Peer Support Networks

Peer support connects people with similar lived experience. In the recovery world, we generally associate peer support with behavioral health but it is much larger than that.  Many professions such as law enforcement and emergency services utilize peer support to provide emotional and practical support to one another. This type of support is particularly effective because peers can relate to each other's challenges and provide validation and understanding. PFLAG, founded by parents of LGBTQ+ individuals, is a prime example of a peer support network. PFLAG offers support groups where LGBTQ+ people and their families can share their experiences, seek advice, and find comfort in knowing they are not alone. Research shows that LGBTQ+ youth with access to supportive peer networks have better mental health outcomes compared to those without such support.

Navigating the Coming Out Process

The coming out process can be fraught with uncertainty and fear of rejection. Support from family and peers can ease this process, providing the reassurance and encouragement needed to live authentically. The Trevor Project, which provides crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to LGBTQ+ youth, highlights the importance of supportive environments during the coming out process. Their resources, including the TrevorLifeline and TrevorSpace, offer LGBTQ+ youth a safe space to discuss their concerns and seek support.

The Role of Supportive Schools and Workplaces

Supportive environments extend beyond the home and community to include schools and workplaces. Creating inclusive and affirming spaces in these settings is vital for the mental health of LGBTQ+ individuals. The Human Rights Campaign's Welcoming Schools program provides training and resources to help educators create safe and inclusive environments for LGBTQ+ students. Similarly, their Corporate Equality Index evaluates workplaces on their LGBTQ+ inclusivity, encouraging businesses to adopt policies that support LGBTQ+ employees. Inclusive policies in schools and workplaces can significantly improve the mental health of LGBTQ+ individuals. These policies include anti-discrimination protections, inclusive curricula, and support groups. According to SAMHSA, LGBTQ+ students in schools with inclusive policies report lower rates of bullying and higher levels of safety and well-being. In the workplace, inclusive policies lead to greater job satisfaction, lower stress levels, and improved overall mental health.

Online Support and Digital Communities

With the advent of digital technology, online support communities have become increasingly important for LGBTQ+ individuals, especially those in isolated or hostile environments. Online forums, social media groups, and virtual support groups provide platforms for connection, information sharing, and emotional support. The Trevor Project's TrevorSpace, an online community for LGBTQ+ youth, allows members to connect with peers worldwide, offering a sense of community and belonging regardless of geographic location.

One of the key advantages of online support is the ability to seek help anonymously. This can be particularly important for LGBTQ+ individuals who are not yet out or who live in areas where it is unsafe to be openly LGBTQ+. Online support also provides access to resources and connections that might not be available locally. The accessibility and anonymity of online support can make it a crucial resource for many LGBTQ+ people facing mental health challenges.

The Power of Representation and Advocacy

Representation and advocacy are also important components of community support. Seeing LGBTQ+ individuals represented positively in media and public life can have a profound impact on mental health, fostering a sense of pride and normalizing LGBTQ+ identities. GLAAD works tirelessly to ensure accurate and inclusive representation of LGBTQ+ people in media, which helps combat stigma and promote acceptance.

Organizations like the Human Rights Campaign and PFLAG engage in advocacy to promote policies that protect and support LGBTQ+ individuals. This includes advocating for non-discrimination laws, access to gender-affirming healthcare, and the banning of conversion therapy. Advocacy efforts help create a more inclusive society, reducing the systemic barriers that contribute to mental health issues among LGBTQ+ people.

Community and peer support are indispensable for the mental health of LGBTQ+ individuals. These support systems provide the understanding, acceptance, and encouragement necessary to navigate the unique challenges faced by LGBTQ+ people. By fostering safe spaces, advocating for inclusive policies, and providing resources for families and peers, organizations like those listed above help create a world where LGBTQ+ individuals can thrive mentally and emotionally. The collective efforts of communities, peers, families, schools, workplaces, and advocacy groups are essential in building a more supportive and inclusive environment for all LGBTQ+ people.

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The Strength of Being an Introvert https://mtpeernetwork.org/010224_ad/ https://mtpeernetwork.org/010224_ad/#respond Tue, 02 Jan 2024 19:27:28 +0000 https://mtpeernetwork.org/?p=14657

by Andi Daniel, Technology Coordinator

January 2, 2024

In recent years there has been increased interest in personality types. One of the most widely talked about in the general public is the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. This test involves questions about 4 pairs of opposites and results in one of 16 four-letter personality types. You may have seen people refer to themselves by these types such as INFP, INTJ, ESTP, ESFP, etc. I haven’t come across any counselors who use these personality types to inform their work with consumers, but they can be somewhat insightful for the individual. I have taken the test and for me, the results were not unexpected.

I am introverted. People who know me are often surprised by that because I am an actor in a theatre company and am quite comfortable speaking in front of people. I often am seen as bubbly in social situations in which I am comfortable. Introversion is sometimes seen as shyness or anxiety around people but that isn’t necessarily accurate. Am I shy around people? I am quite shy around people I don’t know very well. I do have social anxiety, so I sometimes am viewed as not liking people. These factors aren’t directly related to my introversion, though. My parents sometimes worried about how much time I spent alone and would try to coax me out of my room to spend time with the family. This was rarely a positive experience.

Being with groups of people drains me and I need time to myself to rest my mind and body. Even activities that I enjoy can deplete my energy. In the last few years, I have recognized that I experience an emotional and physical crash after a longer term event like being in a theatre production. I don’t always have time to recharge if I am very busy and I can push off that need for solitude for a while. When the event is over, I am exhausted and want to be alone. These crashes used to significantly affect my ability to function for several days after the event. Once I recognized the pattern, I was able to keep myself on an even keel and maintain my functionality. Just the awareness allows me to acknowledge how I feel, take some time for myself, and get back to my life. If I need a full day to just sleep, I allow myself to do that. It isn’t that I am trying to catch up on missed sleep, it is just that sleep is restorative. My mind is quiet while I sleep and my body gets rest.

Montana Actors' Theatre Variety Show mascot by Andi Daniel

Introverts tend to be introspective, creative, and analytical. When I am considering a large purchase, I will spend hours investigating the options and determining what is the best product for me. I compare features and read reviews. I analyze the pros and cons. This sometimes means it takes me weeks to make a decision but when I allow myself that time, I am less likely to regret my purchase. My creativity is generally solitary. I paint, sew, crochet, and do graphic design. This doesn’t mean that I don’t seek input, especially when creating something that will be public. I recently created a mascot for a variety show and collaborated with another person on design. I would create something and send it to that person who would give me feedback. I would consider the feedback for a day or so, then return to the project. This was kind of a long process, but we are both happy with the results.

I am a bit of a dichotomy. While I am very introspective, I am also an external processor. This is part of why therapy is helpful for me. I need to say things out loud to really process through them and make decisions. I used to spend hours on the phone with my mom and grandma when I was trying to figure something out. I kind of talked “at” them instead of “with” them. They knew that I would come up with the answer on my own, but I needed to talk it through. My oldest daughter is also this kind of processor. She will call me when she is on her way home from work and I don’t even really need to respond to her other than basic acknowledgment that I am hearing her. She sometimes asks for an opinion (I would do that with my mom and grandma, too) but usually she just needs to talk.

Working from home has been amazing for me. I find myself more able to be social because I am not expending a lot of energy working directly with people for 8 hours a day. It is easier to go out with friends for dinner or to events because I haven’t depleted by energy reserves at work. Working from home also allows me to work on my schedule which helps maintain my energy levels. My ideal sleep schedule is 2am-10am. I am more productive when I can keep this schedule most days.

Neither introversion nor extroversion are all positive or negative. They are just different ways of interacting with the world around us. Honoring our strengths helps us be more satisfied with our lives. I don’t need to be like my cousin who talks to every person at an event. Instead of schmoozing with patrons at a fundraiser, for example, can quietly observe and fill in gaps when something needs to be handled. This doesn’t result in people donating money, but it does help the night run smoother. I leave the actual donation asks to those who have those strengths. Recognizing these things makes the world easier to navigate.

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Peer Support 101 https://mtpeernetwork.org/peer-support-101/ Mon, 01 Jan 2024 08:42:48 +0000 http://mtpeernetwork.org/?p=12497

MPN is the leader in recovery and behavioral health peer support training. Our first PS 101 was in 2015. We were training peer supporters before Montana recognized certification. MPN was instrumental in the development of behavioral health peer support specialists and led the original Peer Support Task Force 2012-2015. We have the most sought-after training because our curriculum features in person real world role plays that allow participants to practice their new skills and fosters unique approaches to supporting peers. We include content that only experience with building, developing, and running peer support programs can bring. MPN has been a ground breaker in peer support workforce development.

Don’t be fooled by clinicians who think they understand the recovery experience and can teach you effective peer support. The truth is they can’t. Only those who have worked in this role as a peer supporter can. That’s MPN.

Our work speaks for itself:

  • #1 peer support training in Montana
  • 4.5 stars review rating
  • 10 years’ experience training behavioral health peer supporters
  • 1000+ peer supporters trained

About PS101

This empowering and highly interactive training includes topics such as: whole health recovery, one-on-one work, support group facilitation, ethics and standards, confidentiality, change model, recovery concepts and much, much more. This unique training experience provides hands on learning, role play examples, and group discussion that isn'’t available in online or computer based trainings and a personal connection to other peer supporters around the state.

Ps191 is designed to allow the participant to develop core competencies of peer support, gain better understanding of their own recovery story, build upon strengths, network with other peer supporters and understand the important role peer support can play in the recovery process. Upon successful completion of this training participants will receive a certificate of completion from Montana’'s Peer Network. This course meets the National Practice Standards for Peer Supporters and the guideline set up by the Montana Peer Support Task Force and the guidelines for Behavioral Health Peer Support Specialist Certification.

You must complete an application to be considered for PS101. If your application is accepted, you will receive a list of available course dates and be required to pay a $50 non refundable registration fee.

You must have an overall score of 80% to pass the course. This includes homework, class participation, and the final exam.

You will receive a certificate of course completion to submit with your Certified Behavioral Health Peer Support Specialist application

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Celebrating the New Year in Recovery https://mtpeernetwork.org/122623_ad/ https://mtpeernetwork.org/122623_ad/#respond Tue, 26 Dec 2023 19:27:50 +0000 https://mtpeernetwork.org/?p=14647

by Andi Daniel, Technology Coordinator

December 26, 2023

Celebrations that generally revolve around alcohol may be difficult for people in recovery and a good number of New Year’s Eve celebrations do just that. Toasting the new year with champagne is a staple for many celebrations. For those in recovery or who just prefer substance free New Year's celebrations, it can be difficult to find activities. You can always host your own events but many of us hosted events just a few days ago and the thought of hosting another can be overwhelming. 

If you want to get together with friends and family, a simple game or movie night might be just the thing. You don’t have to go all out. Ask everyone to bring their favorite game or movie and a snack or drink to share. You can find a great list of non-alcoholic drinks online at websites such as Allrecipies.

Outdoor activities can be a great way to celebrate the new year and this year’s weather forecast looks to be sunny and not too cold. That may be disappointing to those who like to ski or snowshoe, but for people who don’t enjoy snowy activities, this might be the year to go on a hike somewhere new. After all, there are fewer tourists this time of year!

If you prefer to go out, look for recovery friendly activities. A quick search online brought up the following but you may be able to find something locally in your newspaper or on social media.

Whatever you decide to do (or not do) to ring in the new year, make sure you have plenty of support if you are struggling with behavioral health issues. Reach out to a peer supporter, trusted friend, or family member. Connecting with others helps us maintain our recoveries.

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Embracing the Grinch https://mtpeernetwork.org/121223_ad/ https://mtpeernetwork.org/121223_ad/#respond Tue, 12 Dec 2023 22:26:36 +0000 https://mtpeernetwork.org/?p=14606

by Andi Daniel, Technology Coordinator

December 12, 2023

I am a "grinch." Originally, that was a title given to me by people around me. Specifically when I worked at an early childhood program and had small children of my own. I do not enjoy the holidays. There were many years that we didn't put up a Christmas tree and when my co-workers heard me say that, they acted as if I was severely neglecting my children. We aren't a religious family so we really only celebrated Christmas as a secular holiday. I enjoyed Christmas Day as a kid. It was predictable. Christmas Eve was different. We spent Christmas eve with my dad's family and Christmas Day with my mom's family. My grandpa on my mom's side loved decorating for the holidays and genuinely enjoyed Christmas so it was fun to be there. Celebrations with my dad's extended family were always focused around alcohol and were not enjoyable. Inevitably, some family members would have a disagreement that resulted in loud arguments which were scary as a young child but I got to spend time with my great grandma who I adored so I could sometimes block out the other stuff. When my great grandma moved into a nursing home, those larger family gatherings ended and we would visit her on holidays. It was easy to leave when more people showed up because there simply wasn't enough space in her room for several people.

My parents divorced when I was a senior in high school so my first Christmas back from college was different. My dad had moved in with a girlfriend and her family celebrated on Christmas Eve so that disrupted the predictability I had with Christmas. We no longer spent Christmas eve with my dad's family and were forced to split Christmas Day between two households. I hated it. My mom was always very accommodating since my dad worked on the railroad and his work schedule was unpredictable. My mom and grandma would work around whatever my dad's plans were but I still hated it. Part of this, I'm sure, was related to the excessive changes that had happened during the last couple years of high school and into college. My maternal grandfather died, my parents divorced, I started college out of state, my mom moved out of my childhood home, my dad moved 20 miles from my hometown and in with his girlfriend, and I had a volatile romantic relationship. So while none of that was really related to the holidays, Christmas kind of brought all that into focus at one time.

When I had children I thought maybe the holiday spirit would come back to me but it just complicated things more. Now I had another family to consider and accommodate. I did enjoy buying or making gifts for my kids and doing the secular Christmas things but when my maternal grandma moved out of her house and into an assisted living apartment, things changed again. She wasn't able to cook Christmas dinner in her apartment and my mom had moved out of town so I felt like it was my responsibility to take over those holiday tasks. But I really wasn't good at it. I could never manage to get all the food ready at the same time and couldn't figure out how my grandma always managed to do that. I found out later that she just knew how to keep things warm while the rest of the food was cooking. But to me as a child, it always looked perfect. And that was the problem. I wanted the holidays to be perfect. I felt like I was failing by not managing things the way my parents and grandparents had. I was stressed about gifts, decorations, food, etc. It only got worse when I divorced and now had to schedule events around another household and another family when my ex-husband moved in with his girlfriend.

Here is the thing about perfectionism. My rational brain knows that none of this will be perfect and that my children won't be scarred for life if the turkey is dry or dinner happens at 6pm instead of 2pm. These are small things but my emotional self still had these high expectations. If I couldn't meet them, I was a failure. The expectations of those co-workers who thought I was neglectful for not having a Christmas tree didn't help. Being forced to decorate my office or hallway for Christmas irritated me. Christmas music sets me on edge. Crowded stores stress me out. On the other hand, I love acting in the Christmas Pantos that my theatre company does every few years. I've even directed a few Christmas shows. This gives me something to focus on during the holidays and because I have given up trying to make things perfect, I don't have as much to do as some other actors and directors. The last few years have been very quiet around the holidays. My grandma passed away several years ago. My daughters live out of state and have significant others so sometimes they come home and sometimes they don't. My mom spends Christmas with my brother's family in California because he likes Christmas and has younger children. She always asks if its okay and I always tell her to go. She visits me regularly anyway so it makes sense for her to visit them when she can. I always have a standing invitation to go to California, but I really don't mind being alone on Christmas or Thanksgiving. There are no expectations, I don't have to do anything I don't want to do. I can simply enjoy a few days off from work.

I don't worry about gifts much because I buy my kids monthly subscription boxes instead of birthday or Christmas gifts. They get to pick what they like, they can change it whenever they want to, and it cuts down on me frantically trying to decide what to buy for everyone.

Just as it is okay not to be okay, it is okay not to like holidays. So, yes, I am still a "grinch" but now I embrace that side of me.

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Radical Acceptance Without DBT https://mtpeernetwork.org/062023_ad/ https://mtpeernetwork.org/062023_ad/#respond Tue, 20 Jun 2023 07:56:59 +0000 https://mtpeernetwork.org/?p=13804

by  Andi Daniel, Technology Coordinator

June 20, 2023

We most often hear about radical acceptance in the context of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) but the concept can be applied with other therapies as well. Part of radical acceptance is acknowledging our thoughts about ourselves even if we aren't in the right space to challenge those thoughts directly as with DBT or Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). For me, CBT and DBT are very difficult but I can take pieces of them and improve my mental health. That's not to say that I think CBT and DBT are ineffective therapies, they absolutely can be life-changing for many people, especially those who aren't consciously aware of where their thoughts and behaviors originated from. Often when we can identify why we behave or think in a specific way, it helps us to manage those behaviors and thoughts. After many years of therapy-both individual and group-I am aware of where my thoughts and behaviors come from, but that doesn't help me manage them. The DBT and CBT skills just aren't a good fit for me. Radical acceptance is difficult, but I have managed to apply it to some aspects of my life.

My major behavioral health crisis stemmed from the break up of my marriage. It wasn't something I wanted and I felt like I had failed as both a wife and mother. My emotional reaction to the break up was negatively affecting my children and I was unable to care for them which led to more feelings of failure. I received some inpatient care due to suicidal thoughts for about a week and it didn't change anything for me but they sent me home anyway. The thoughts continued and I had a psychiatric hold that changed things for me. The medical doctor on call told me about her break up and how she had been unable to care for her children for a period of time. That was the hope I needed-although the suicidal thoughts continued and I did attempt suicide about a month later-I was connected with a therapist who was willing to try new things with me.

Hands holding paper faces with emotions drawn on them.Some of the best tools that I learned in therapy were Emotion Focused Therapy combined with Emotional Freedom Techniques (both referred to as EFT). Emotion Focused Therapy allows us to experience our unpleasant emotions in a safe space and re-frame them in a way that makes them beneficial or at least not disruptive. We are guided to "sit with" our emotions and feel them as much as we possibly can while observing our thoughts and sensations. This can be a form of radical acceptance. There is no judgement placed on the validity of the emotion. The emotion exists, and we accept that it is there. We don't try to push it away or think our way out of it. We don't try to rationalize it although we may discover the origins of it if we are unaware of the origin before starting a session. Part of the reason I found this helpful was that I was given the opportunity to put my logical brain away for a bit. There was a time limit on how long I would have to sit with the emotions and it made them easier to process. I was often afraid that if I allowed myself to fully feel those emotions, I would be stuck in them and be back in the self-injury and suicidal ideation that had taken over my life for a while.

Using the other EFT, Emotional Freedom Techniques, I was able to incorporate radical acceptance. This therapy is sometimes referred to as tapping because it focuses on specific points on the body to tap on while repeating phrases. It helps rewire some of our thinking. My therapist would help me formulate those phrases that always ended with some version of "I totally and completely accept myself." This helped me acknowledge my feelings, thoughts, and behaviors without judgement and to process them in a different way. It also helped me manage my anxiety in the moment if I could just take a few minutes to focus and tap. It helped me be more comfortable at events for my kids, especially those in which I was likely to see my ex-husband.

It also gave me tools to manage the stress and anxiety of being a single parent and helped me talk to my children about their emotions in a nonjudgmental way. I was able to teach them some of the techniques I had learned. Some were helpful to them and others were not but those therapies changed me for the better by improving my mental health which improved my ability to care for my children.

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Technology and Mental Health https://mtpeernetwork.org/053023_ad/ https://mtpeernetwork.org/053023_ad/#respond Tue, 30 May 2023 22:16:34 +0000 http://mtpeernetwork.org/?p=13721

by  Andi Daniel, Technology Coordinator

May 30, 2023

You have probably heard that computers, phones, social media, and other apps are bad for your mental health. That can definitely be an issue as many things in our lives can affect our mental health. In general, too much of just about anything can be problematic. There are various ways in which technology can adversely affect us but there are great things that technology can do for us.

Physical Effects

All electronics can cause eye strain and the type of light emitted by the device can interfere with sleep. Some phones and tablets have the option to set a blue filter on the screen to help at night and you can generally adjust the brightness of the screen. You can also purchase blue light blocking glasses if you are experiencing eyes strain. If we spend a lot of time looking down at our phones or tablets, we may feel strain in our necks and backs. We tend to lean forward when we are at our computers or slump in comfy chairs when watching movies or series. Watching screens also keeps us sedentary and it is easy to get involved in binging a series, following several links one after the other, or scrolling through Facebook, Instagram, and other social media apps.

Psychological Effects

Comparing yourself to what you see on social media apps can be detrimental to your wellness and mental health. We often want to show the world the best of ourselves and our social media reflects that. It is easy to compare your life with what others post on their accounts. We see vacations, good food, workout videos, weight loss milestones, and other things that can make us feel like we don't measure up. Excessive use of social media can also lead us to isolation. It can feel like you are connecting with others but you aren't getting that feedback when you are scrolling through an app. That's not to say you can't cultivate relationships through technology - before email and phones, people communicated via letters - but you still have to work at maintaining those relationships. I have found some wonderful people on social media that I feel are friends even though we may never meet each other in person.

It is also easy for us to insulate ourselves from differing opinions online. Your feeds are curated based on what you look at, click on, and watch. Ever notice how you are searching for something and all of a sudden you are getting ads for that thing? The algorithms are tracking your visits and even listening to you if you have your microphones on our you have an Alexa or Google Dot or another similar device. This can give you a skewed perspective of the available information because you aren't seeing things that you might not agree with.

Technology isn't all bad, though. As I stated above, we can make new friends and stay in touch with our friends easier. Many health care providers offer telehealth services. This expanded in the beginning of the COVID-19 pandemic and some providers continue to use it. This is extremely helpful for people in very rural areas who might not have access to providers where they live.

Sometimes, it is helpful for our mental health to stay organized and there are many apps available. Some allow you to share calendars with others and some can remind you of tasks you need to finish or appointments you need to attend. It is especially challenging to keep track of appointments and activities when you have several children that you are shuffling form place to place. Many providers have apps that will help you see your medical history, schedule appointments, and connect with your providers.

There are also many apps that are designed for people in recovery or to help manage your mental health. MyMHCP is a place for you to develop and access your recovery plan easily. The Veterans' Administration has a list of apps, some of which are available for anyone such as CBT-i Coach, Mindfulness Coach, and PTSD Coach. There are even apps for people in 12 Step programs.

Many apps are free or have free trial periods so you can test them out before buying them. Free doesn't always mean poorly executed. Some of the best apps are free or quite inexpensive. Try them out and see what works best for you!

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SAMHSA GIPHY Stickers

 

Right click (CTRL-click on Mac) to download these SAMHSA stickers!

 

Visit the SAMHSA Website for more resources!

 

Children's Mental Health Acceptance Week May 7-13

Visit The Federation of Families for more resources.

 

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Get support navigating the path of becoming a parent with creative solutions. A guided conversation with weekly recovery topics and creative projects with a focus on “Recovery by the Week” and Healthy Minds and Healthy Bodies.

Groups offered online every other Tuesday at noon.

 

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